New Year’s Resolutions, don’t you just love ‘em? Those things we decide we “shoulda, woulda, coulda” achieved and yet only 9.2 % of those who resolve to change something about themselves or their lives will succeed and something like 80% of New Year’s Resolutions will fall by the wayside before February has waved goodbye.
As the end of the year approaches, we take stock of our lives, both personal and professional. As discussed in my previous blog, we use the holidays to recharge our batteries and reflect on what we have achieved, but more often, those things we feel could or should be better. We can feel disappointed with a perceived lack of progress, whether that is with our health, relationships or revenue. We resolve that something MUST change, right?
So, how can we make resolutions that will “stick”? Positive changes that we can maintain not just through January but forever? Three ways to ensure your resolutions are achievable and successful, too:
- Make them real, be it pie or income.
That pumpkin pie was good, wasn’t it? But , as the saying goes, “a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips” In an effort to atone for the many indulgences of the holiday period, so many of us resolve to lose that extra bit of weight and, to show just how committed we are to the notion, we will throw in a really expensive gym membership for good measure. How long did that last? One week, two?
Setting a resolution is no different to setting a business goal – you need to be SMART – make them specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and timely. It’s no good saying “I want to lose three dress sizes in a month” – that’s not going to happen in a healthy way and be impossible to maintain. Similarly, saying, “I’m going to save x thousand dollars a month” might be fine until the car needs work, or the house insurance is due, then you’re back to square one, with feelings of failure thrown in.
Yes, it’s good to aim high, but you also need to be real. Be realistic in your timeline. Sure, you want results yesterday, but life’s not like that. You are far more likely to stick with your resolution, instead, if you set small goals along the way and reward yourself for achieving them.
- Make it easy using HABITS
Habits are what we do daily, consciously or subconsciously. They can support our goal or detract from it, and it’s important to “use them for good.” Before you do this,. make sure you have the capacity to achieve your goals. Set up mid-point achievements and congratulate yourself for achieving them. Give yourself a reason for continuing and, instead of always looking to your end goal, maybe take a look back and see how far you’ve come already!
- Don’t over extend yourself
As January 1st looms, the exercise of resolving to change for the better, fills us with hope, excitement, empowerment; we just can’t wait to see the “new” us. We’re going to be fitter, healthier, more successful… and in that heady rush of excitement, it’s easy to forget about all the other demands on our time. For example, if your resolution is to run a marathon and you have never run before, then you’re going to need to put in some training. What obstacles are in the way of that training? Can you commit to early morning gym sessions or weekend practice runs? If not, maybe put that resolution on the back burner until you do have the time. Don’t set yourself up for failure before you even start, because instead of running a marathon, you’ll find yourself running headlong into diminishing self-esteem. Make sure you can expend both the time and effort to stay committed to your goal. If possible, minimize any distractions that may hijack you on the road to “new you” to give yourself the best chance of succeeding.
In our next blog, we will take a closer look at habits and how you can change them…once and for all.