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 If simply reading a book helped, you would not be reading this right now

Here’s a common challenge many solo business owners face: feeling scattered and overwhelmed in both their personal and professional lives. You might find yourself wondering if you should keep going or just give up. Why does everything have to be so hard? Why does it seem like chaos is a permanent state?

A common sentiment I hear is, “I know what to do, so why can’t I just do it?” Let’s address that today because it’s a very real issue.

You might think you don’t need a coach or any external help. Maybe you believe you can just pick up a book, learn what you need, and then apply it. While knowledge is essential, it’s not everything. There are indeed people who can read a book and implement what they’ve learned effortlessly. However, most people can’t, and that’s where the frustration sets in. If you find yourself saying, “I know what I need to do, but I’m just not doing it,” then this message is for you.

Let’s visualize this journey.

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Imagine you’re starting here, at the beginning of your learning process. You gain awareness—you understand what you want, how your brain works, and the steps you need to take. This awareness is crucial. You might read a book and think, “I want to follow this path.” However, awareness alone isn’t enough.

Here’s where many people struggle: their performance doesn’t match their awareness. You might have a high level of awareness, but your ability to execute—your performance—lags behind. This gap between awareness and performance can lead to self-doubt, which is a significant barrier to success.

For example, I spoke with someone today who has big dreams of becoming a high-paid keynote speaker and an executive coach. She has the awareness of what she needs to do but struggles with confidence and maintaining momentum. This creates a gap between her aspirations and her current performance.

Another person I talked to is focused on making a significant impact in her relationships and leaving a legacy. She’s learned a lot about her brain and past traumas, which has increased her awareness. However, her performance hasn’t caught up, creating another gap.

Instead of just reading a book and feeling stuck, consider this. A small cohort of amazing individuals who will work together to bridge the gap between awareness and performance is starting soon. We start on June 13th, and I’m limiting it to just four participants. This group will help you gain confidence, identify where you are in your journey, and uncover how your brain might be holding you back. You’ll practice in a safe environment, either in a group or one-on-one with me. In August, you will be running on all cylinders and making great progress. And momentum leads to MORE momentum, so the truly motivated will likely accelerate this in ways I cannot imagine.

As an expert coach, I see and understand different types of brains. We leave blame and shame at the door and focus on uncovering your true self. If you want to join the next Green Goddess cohort this spring or summer, so you’re ready to roll by fall, HIT REPLY NOW. Don’t wake up on Labor Day feeling lost. You can email me at carol@unscatterme.com or message me on Facebook or LinkedIn. There are plenty of ways to get in touch.

I can’t wait to meet you and help you achieve your goals, unleash your true potential, and bless the world with your unique gifts. Wake up to the spring of your life, ease into the summer with grace and happiness, and make your mark.

Learn why clearing the mental clutter can unlock your path to confidence and fulfillment

So many problems in our lives are because we just can’t seem to make decisions. In fact, DECIDE  is the first step on the success path to going from scattered and stuck to focused and confident.

What if you had fewer choices? If you had fewer choices, life would be simpler. 

Think about it. If you’ve got a lot of stuff in your house, it’s spring cleaning time, right?. A lot of people this time of year are decluttering. They’re decluttering their closets. They’re decluttering the garages. They want to get organized. They want to spring out of the winter and into the summer. What if you decluttered your calendar? What if you decluttered your choices in your life?

Please comment below with the one you are going to start….

What one thing will you choose to work on during the rest of this month -in May – to declutter?

A:  your clothing?

B:  your bank account & all your automatic payments?

C: your calendar?

Which one will you declutter? 

Myself, I started with my calendar and the reason I started with my calendar. I had too much going on. I was really good at keeping all the balls in the air. Still am, but you know what? That was exhausting, and if you’ve been following me on my videos, you’ll see I got burned out. 

Now that my calendar is clearer, I have more time. I have more time to BE, more time to REST, more time to THINK, more time to CREATE, more time to NOT BE  frenetic…the list goes on. With more time to be able to actually rest, I don’t get sick, and I don’t yell at my loved ones.

Decluttering isn’t just about simplifying your physical surroundings; it’s about creating space in your life for what truly matters. When you give yourself the gift of fewer choices, you empower yourself to prioritize what brings you joy and fulfillment.

When we actually allow ourselves the choices that we have, we give ourselves what we need, and when we give ourselves what we need, we can give others what we need as well. So again, what will you declutter first? I cannot wait to know. 

Spring into happiness,

Carol

PS: The finishing touches are being placed on my next cohort of brave warriors. Come declutter the thoughts and actions that do NOT serve you so that you can simplify your life. 2 spaces left and we begin on June 13. Drop me an email at carol@unscatterme.com with the titl ‘I’M INTERESTED” and we will have a chat!  

Nurturing Yourself and Your Dreams: A Mother’s Journey to Subjective Success

How do you define success? Many of us believe that non-stop hard work is the key to success, but there’s a vital aspect we often overlook: subjective success. Subjective success encompasses elements like fun, freedom, and flexibility that are just as important as traditional measures of success.

Let’s explore each of these components:

1. Fun: Often underestimated, fun is essential for sustained success. Working tirelessly without enjoying the process can lead to burnout. Incorporating enjoyment into our daily routines is key to long-term fulfillment. What’s your favorite flavor of fun? Mine is dancing!

2. Freedom: What does freedom mean to you? Is it having control over your time or the ability to pursue your passions? Understanding our values and desires is crucial for achieving true freedom and fulfillment. Freedom to me means making my own choices and decisions.

3. Flexibility: Many professionals, like coaches and soloists, prioritize flexibility in their work arrangements. Whether it’s working remotely or creating unconventional lifestyles, flexibility allows us to design lives that align with our values. I like to say “I am the boss of my life and my business.”

It’s time to break free from the mindset of relentless “productivity roller coaster” hustle and embrace a more holistic approach to success. Get that nose out of the grindstone! It’ll never lead to the true happiness you desire. Take the time to reflect on what truly matters to you and prioritize subjective success alongside traditional measures.

Before I close this out, 2 deep questions for you:

• What is an important lever in your happiness? 
• How do you measure it?

As we celebrate Mother’s Day, let’s acknowledge the importance of time, freedom, and flexibility for all mothers. Balancing personal and professional responsibilities is challenging at the best of times. It’s also  essential for nurturing our families and ourselves.

Wishing all mothers a wonderful Mother’s Day filled with love, joy, and self-care. See you at the summit (see the PS below)! 🌟

With motherly love and wisdom,

Carol

PS: Have you or people you know had trauma? I sure have. Most of us have, even though we don’t know it! Join me at the upcoming trauma summit hosted by Karen Robinson, where I’ll be speaking FRIDAY 11AM EASTERN on steps to get your life back and make a big impact in the world AFTER you heal. SIGN UP HERE

PPS: I have a couple of places open for the Confident And Successful Business Owner Program, but act quickly before the doors close tomorrow: INFO/APPLY HERE

Navigating burnout and maximizing impact in today’s world

Before you read the article…..don’t lose your opportunity for a Q2 and beyond BOLD BREAKTHROUGH this Tuesday May 7th. Sign up before all the spaces are gone…there are a few left as of this writing.

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Leaders often fall into the illusion that non-stop hard work is the key to their success. Here’s the truth: pushing yourself to the brink leads to burnout, not brilliance. 

THE NUMBER 1 TIME MANAGEMENT SECRET: Time out isn’t just beneficial, it’s essential. 

When we balance drive with creativity and rest, something extraordinary happens – our impact soars. 

Let me share my own story. 

During the pandemic years of 2020, 2021, and 2022, I experienced exponential success, but in 2023 my father fell ill, and everything changed. I found myself burning out, trying to juggle caring for him, my family, and my clients without a moment to breathe. I needed deliberate rest, and in the first quarter of 2024, I took it. I invested in coaching, read, made connections, and reflected deeply on my mission. Turns out, it wasn’t so different from before, and I’ve distilled three key points to share.

1. Firstly, productivity and rest aren’t separate – they’re intertwined. It’s about doing the right things for your Great Work and your life, not just filling time with (MORE) tasks. Deliberate Rest isn’t just about napping; it’s about supporting productivity by engaging different parts of your brain.
2. Secondly, rhythm and routine support creativity. Contrary to common belief, they don’t stifle it; they create space for it to flourish. 
3. TIME FOR ACTION: learn how to IMPLEMENT these concepts by coming to the YOUR BOLD BREAKTHROUGH: The Great Work-Shop on May 7. Your great work is your gift to the world, unique to you in a way AI can’t replicate. 

If you want to be average, get a job…any job will do. 

If you want to be impactful, join me on May 7th for the Great Work Workshop, Your Bold Breakthrough,. Do it before seats and time run out.

It’s time to prioritize your sanity and your impact. 

See you there!

Empowerment through courageous inquiry and resilient action

Having the courage to do our Great Work in the world, to get out there and do something different, is no joke.

Answering the 3 questions below, very thoughtfully, will move you out of procrastination, inertia, and pain. They help you answer the bigger question:

Is there some part of me that doesn’t believe in me? 

This is such an important question because no matter how prepared you get, if you actually don’t believe that you can do the thing, your body will self-sabotage all day long.  It will not allow you to do the thing even when you take the steps. 

So here you go; the three questions:

1. What do you really want? (Important so we don’t spend all our money and time doing stuff that does not matter yet…most times with most people that is what they are doing! Come 5/7 and stop this vicious cycle)
2. What are you willing to do? (get out of your head and into action….be sure to have the 3 ingredients for success here: a community, a coach and a course/path)
3. How many failures are you willing to have? (people almost never consider this and rather, expect perfection on their first try…when this does NOT happen they quit and tell themselves all the reasons they are not worthy, should not have tried, it’s not for them etc…which are All Lies.)

Do not forget or miss this rare opportunity on 5/7 to dive deep and stop that little voice inside that you could be doing your Great Work “if only…” (add in your reason/excuse)

Your Bold Breakthrough: The Great Work-Shop  is coming May 7th. Do not miss it. It’s 11:00 AM to 1:00 PM Eastern. Some registrations are starting to come in. Make sure you get a seat. 

It’s your chance to still make sure you get your goals realized in 2024. It is not too late. See you there. 

BONUS; Let’s dive deeper into the concept of self-belief: The Johari Window

The Johari Window offers a fascinating framework for introspection, dividing our self-awareness into four quadrants. This was fascinating to me. Tell me what YOU think. I’ll get you the quadrants and then an example for each one.

1. “open” quadrant: this encompasses aspects known to both ourselves and others—a realm of confidence and assurance. Duh; no example needed.

2. “blind” quadrant: this reveals aspects known to others but hidden from our awareness, shedding light on areas for growth and development. Good example: you keep eating cookies, soda and chips and wonder why you don’t lose weight. You might see it, but you are not aware of it. Or you are trying to grow your coaching practice, but you are not doing the right things for your phase of business. It takes others to shine the light and for you to recalibrate and follow a path of success.

3. “hidden” quadrant: this harbors secrets known only to us, urging us to confront our innermost fears and insecurities. Example: many of my clients hide money secrets from their husbands as they are building their business. They are deathly afraid of failure so they want a “win” first before asking for support. This backfires. Luckily they hired me and we got them out of lies and into abundance 🙂

4. “unknown” quadrant: this represents uncharted territory, where potential awaits realization, beckoning us to embrace uncertainty with courage and conviction.

As we navigate our paths towards greatness, let’s embrace belief in ourselves, transcending doubt and fear. If you find yourself grappling with self-doubt or uncertainty, know that you’re not alone. Reach out, initiate a conversation—let’s embark on this journey together. 

Remember, our bold breakthrough awaits, slated for May 7th. Don’t miss this transformative workshop, an opportunity to unearth your true potential and redefine your journey towards success. 

Join us, and let’s make 2024 the year of unparalleled growth and achievement. 

See you there!

You are worthy and the world needs you,

Carol

Strategies for sustainable success: explore tactics to boost productivity and enhance well-being

Do you ever find yourself torn between the desire for consistency and the fear of boredom? If this resonates with you, then you’re in the right place.
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Many individuals in my community express this dilemma. They understand that their lack of consistency leads to feelings of disarray. Yet, they also enjoy the variety of switching between activities to stave off boredom. If this sounds familiar, stick around because I’ve got three strategies to help shift your perspective on this common challenge.

Before diving into these tactics, let’s clarify what I mean by consistency and why it matters. When I talk about consistency, I’m not advocating for rigid schedules or strict routines that feel suffocating. Instead, it’s about committing to what truly matters to you and following through. This level of consistency is crucial because it not only builds trust with others but also fosters self-confidence. Without it, self-doubt can creep in, leading to self-sabotage. This is especially pertinent for creative and sometimes scattered entrepreneurs striving to make their mark in the world.

I know you want to decide you’re going to do something you really do want to, and then actually really do it. But how do you bridge that?? How do you get there?

Here are 3 tactics. Read through them and reply to me to let me know what you run into then you try them on. That’s where the real work begins!

1. Energy: Recognize that your energy levels fluctuate throughout the day. Everything is energy. It’s therefore CRITICAL to identify when you’re at your peak—whether it’s during the morning, midday, or evening—and create your day rhythm to respect and honor your energy…not the other way around.. For instance, , you might find that your creativity flows best in the morning. So STOP saying YES to meetings in the morning. Your genius depends on it.
2. Alignment: Be honest with yourself about what you genuinely want to pursue. MOST PEOPLE MISS THIS COMPLETELY. It’s easy to commit to activities that sound good in theory but don’t align with your true desires. This is the moment to STOP. Do not gloss over this, or worse, beat yourself up. Take a good amount of time to reflect on whether your actions align with your aspirations. For example, if you’ve been telling yourself that you’ll start a new exercise routine every Sunday after church but find yourself consistently skipping it in favor of a nap, it’s be time to reassess your priorities. Bigger than that is your Purpose. If you don’t know why you’re doing what you are doing, you will NOT be consistent. You will find the next shiny thing so you can feel better. It’s time to take a step back. Come to the Great Work-Shop on May 7 so you can dial in!
3. Boredom: Dive deeper into the concept of boredom. Instead of dismissing it as a fleeting feeling, consider what underlying emotions might be at play. Boredom is often a mask for fear—fear of failure, fear of commitment, or fear of monotony. By addressing these underlying fears, you can uncover new opportunities for growth and creativity. For instance, if you find yourself constantly jumping from one project to another out of fear that sticking to one thing will lead to boredom, it’s worth examining whether this fear is holding you back from achieving success. We often will secretly fear success. Fear is sneaky and she “knows” you. She masquerades as “I want this so much!” and you never look at the fact that it’s YOUR actions that create your result.

Remember, it’s not about adhering to a rigid schedule or micromanaging every minute of your day. Instead, focus on establishing patterns of deliberate practice and intentional rest. Just as athletes alternate between training and recovery, find a balance between focused effort and rejuvenation in your own pursuits. Productivity and Rest are yin and yang. One without the other is no bueno. One with the other, combined with clear purpose and great habits and a coach and community….well that’s where you are UNSTOPPABLE and it feels effortless.

Yet…

It’s one thing to know the tactics. It’s another thing altogether to do the work to get you there. Life has a way of distracting the bejesus out of us.

That’s why I offer workshops 3 times a year. When you know, you know. Just imagine…rest and purpose and productivity, habits and community. What are you waiting for anyhow?

You know. Well then let’s do this. “Your Bold Breakthrough” on May 7th. REGISTRATION IS OPEN! INFO/REGISTER HERE TO SAVE YOUR SPOT.

See you there, and until then, stay inspired!

Carol

Carol Williams
The Beacon of Light Center, LLC

p.s. Did you miss the Overcoming Obstacles Map to Success from last week? DOWNLOAD THE FREE MINI COURSE HERE

p.p.s. Don’t forget, my friend, Karen Robinson, is hosting a complimentary Healing Coaching Intensive focusing on Addictions & Risky Behaviors Post Trauma on Thursday, April 25, 2024, from 7:00-8:00 PM eastern. A transformative event to face your unhealthy behaviors and reclaim control of your future. Find out more here.