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In part one of this blog, we discussed the hamster wheel of life and how to get off. We talked about what’s working for you and what’s not (which you can assess here: Productivity Success Cake.) And we covered committing to taking control with a calm mind.

So now let’s dig a little deeper into how you can design and create the life you want to live, purpose-led and heart-centered, and balanced throughout.

Why would you bother designing your life?

The answer is plain and simple, if YOU don’t take charge and design your life how you want it, you’ll be permanently stuck on that hamster wheel, just trying to keep up. Life will be what goes on around you while you’re battling to stay afloat. It doesn’t have to be like this.

You have a chance to live your IKIGAI.

What is IKIGAI? It’s a fun AND effective way to uncover what you really want. Ikigai requires introspection, and a true commitment to changing your life – out with the old, in with the new.

It’s an exciting prospect, right?

Ikigai helps you identify your purpose in life. With that newfound sense of purpose, you will begin to live each day with meaning and motivation. You’ll be focused and clear on what you want, and you’ll feel rejuvenated.

Key elements to Ikigai

When you’re working on your Ikigai, you should focus on your values, your morals, your ethics, and your truth. In order to live in a truly authentic way, in alignment with self, pay close attention to this area. These elements will influence all the others.

The main areas of focus are:

• What you love
• What you are good at
• What the world needs
• What you can get paid for

Then you drill deeper into the overlapping areas of:

• Your passion
• Your mission
• Your profession
• Your vocation

It’s worth spending some real time with your Ikigai. It’s likely some things will come to you easily and quickly, but other areas may take some time and reflection to truly get to the core.

How does your Ikigai reflect your current circumstances?

If you’re living a life that is so far removed from your Ikigai, it’s no wonder you feel trapped on that hamster wheel. If your profession jars with your core values, for example, you’ll likely feel lost and overwhelmed, and unhappy.

The more we use our Ikigai to influence our decision making, the more aligned we become with our truth. And this helps us to design the life we were meant to live.

In part one of this blog, we looked at WHY we want MORE time in our worlds, the research, the desires, the revenge procrastination… So, now let’s have a look at HOW we create more time for ourselves and make the most of the time we do have.

HOW

It’s IMPOSSIBLE to create ‘additional’ time for yourself. There, I said it. Sorry to disappoint. Time machines haven’t yet been invented (unfortunately). What you CAN do is use your time differently to create SPACE by sacrifice. Sound scary? I promise, it isn’t.

In my last post I asked you to think about what you would really want if time was of no concern, if time itself didn’t exist. Did you do it? If you didn’t, go do it now!

Notice that there are some things you would LOVE to continue doing or even start doing if time were meaningless. Jot those down – they’re important.

Now, think about what’s currently preventing you from doing those things. What is occupying your time so much that you can’t do these things?

By this point you should have a list of the stuff you do with your time and the stuff you want to do with your time. Now go through that list of stuff you do and see what you could sacrifice and replace with one of the things you want to do. Those hours spent in front of the TV blankly, that extra hour in bed you don’t need, those strolls around the supermarket could they be reduced? What about all those things you say YES to for someone else’s benefit? What about the time scrolling aimlessly on social media? Where is YOUR time leaking? 

Every YES requires a NO

Quite simply put, every time you say YES to something, you’re also saying NO to something else. When you think about it like that, a whole new concept of time opens up. It’s a game changer. Remember that when you say yes to one thing, it’s preventing you from doing another. This is a really easy way for you to begin to identify where your time goes and to make better choices.

HOW to discern HOW to spend your time

Most people choose to spend their lives doing the ‘non-negotiables’ that most likely include basic self care, family care, and work. They then wonder why they ‘never get to’ the stuff that lights them up – the ‘someday I will.’ Those things then become unattainable (or nearly so). Then we come up with wonderful stories (not so wonderful) as to ‘why we can’t.’

We even go as far as to poke fun at those who suggest we might change our perspective. It sounds like “you don’t live in the real world, I need to … blah blah blah.”

Is this you? If so….how’s that working for you?

People who realize life is all choices recommend that you ask yourself regularly, is this taking me towards my goal? If the answer is no, they make a new choice.

When we have choices we feel empowered. We are happier. The sunshine spreads.

For example, I get to write this blog right now because I chose to ask my son to make dinner. I expressed loads of gratitude. I have him two “pre-thank you hugs.” And he will get another hug after the meal. This is a win/win. Sure, I may eat a bit later in the evening (he is on his own schedule!) and he gets to be helpful, I get to be grateful, and we get to eat yummy food. Best of all I can do the work I need to do. THAT’S what I call ‘life balance.’

Yes, it takes some decision making and yes it can be tough to start with (we are habit creatures), and, the benefits of choosing how you spend your time are HUGE. Less stress, more motivation, that satisfaction you feel after a productive day – don’t you want to feel like that as much as possible? And it takes you closer and closer to achieving your goals.

How to determine the strategy that works best for YOU

So, take some time (ha, did it again) to figure out what’s important to you and prioritize those things. And don’t forget the concept of optimism bias – ALWAYS schedule more time than you think you’ll need to complete something. That way, best case scenario, you have a little extra time to do something more.

Here are some bullets to consider and articles to help with each item:

• What brings you joy and happiness and fulfilment?

Form great habits and focus on things one at a time.

• Learn how to say NO to things that don’t serve you well.

Create a routine that works for you.

• Double down by attaching one activity to another, like listening to a podcast while you’re out for a walk.

Do the things that have the biggest impact, therefore increasing your productivity.

• Do something while you’re waiting for something else, make the most of the opportunity.

Schedule like a pro and make sure you don’t underestimate how long things will take.

Put yourself first. No, really. Do it. No joke. In everything.

And last but not least…why having time constraints is a GOOD thing.

Imagine, if you had all the time in the world to get things done, would you really do them? Without deadlines and the understanding that the time we have is finite, we’d drift along, unencumbered, and we would eventually see pretty much everything as pointless.

Time is precious, so to use it to our advantage in order to fulfil our dreams and create a beautiful existence for us and those around us is the most significant thing you can do with it.

And as a bonus, watch this great Ted Talk by Tim Urban

Time. Sometimes we wish we had more of it, sometimes we will it to go quicker, sometimes we feel like it’s running out, sometimes we’re waiting for the right time, and we ALL want to make the most of it!

Is that really possible? To make the most of every nanosecond?

First let’s take some time (see what I did there?!) to explore WHY we have this insatiable craving for MORE time.

WHY?

At one time ‘work/life balance’ was a hot topic. Today, after nearly a year in COVID, most of us are doing some kind of ‘home hybrid’ so let’s think about work and life in terms of integration instead, as they do clearly go hand in hand.

Most of us have it backwards. We ‘do all the stuff’ then ‘try to find time’ for our IKIGAI (thing that lights us up deeply.)  Let’s recognize that we all need some ‘play time’ in our days, something unstructured and/or fun, time to unwind and kick off the stresses of the day, but since (mostly) we don’t schedule this into our routines as a necessity, we end up crashing instead and ‘wasting’ that valuable R&R time.

Does this sound familiar?

It has been a long day. So you sit blankly in front of the TV, telling yourself you should be doing something productive, but you just can’t find the energy. (Hint, telling yourself this stuff erases any energy you may have found.) If it’s not TV, you are most likely scrolling aimlessly on social media – or my favorite – both at the same time. Your brain and body in moments like these is rebelling and telling you “I need rest.”

You’re escaping into a haze of nothingness and, boy, does it feel good. YES! You need rest. Your primitive brain is taking over; it’s what you need. And as mentioned earlier- then the voice often comes. That niggling voice shaming you and making you feel guilty. NOT HELPFUL. Living like this creates cognitive dissonance. No wonder people drink.

Revenge Bedtime Procrastination- are you experiencing this?

Have you heard of ‘revenge bedtime procrastination’? It’s described as, “a phenomenon in which people who don’t have much control over their daytime life refuse to sleep early in order to regain some sense of freedom during late night hours.”

Those who feel that work takes up most of their time, or that they lack the feeling of control over their time prey victim to this more often than those who schedule in their time to chill. We all want some time to ourselves to do nothing. It can be so bad for some people that it has a compound effect in their day-to-day lives because they’ve stayed up too late (and possibly had too much to drink) and their ability to fire on all cylinders the following day abandons them.

The Planning Fallacy

Research also suggests that we have a tendency to underestimate the time it will take us to get things done due to ‘optimism bias’.

“The optimism bias is defined as the difference between a person’s expectation and the outcome that follows. If expectations are better than reality, the bias is optimistic; if reality is better than expected, the bias is pessimistic.”

When attempting to predict how long something will take you, if you exhibit the optimism bias, this is called the ‘Planning Fallacy’.

What’s more, this bias overrides our ability to accurately predict how long things will take us, EVEN IF we’ve done them plenty of times before. So, this is going to have a huge impact on how you schedule your day and you’ll likely find that the time you set aside to rest, or play has been eaten into by needing to complete your to-do list tasks.

I’ll be covering more about HOW you can combat this in my next blog post, but for now, just let that information sink in and ask yourself…

What would you REALLY WANT if time did not exist?

Yes, it’s time to fantasize and visualize what your day would look like if you had all the time in the world.

• How would it feel to have no pressure of deadlines looming?
• How would you go about your business?
• Would you set yourself a routine?
• Would you abandon all routine safe in the knowledge things will get done when they get done?
• What’s your favorite part about this new timeless world?
• What do you love the most?

Leveraging your deep desires

Now, of course, we’re never going to be utterly free of time-constraints and I’ll tell you why that’s a GOOD THING in my next blog. But for now, let’s focus on what you’ve learnt from your visualization.

There will have been a few things that came to mind, things you would 100% continue to do if time was no concern. Hold onto those things; they’re important. I bet they’re things you currently WANT to do but find you don’t have time for.  So, what you’re saying is that these things are of huge importance to you, and that they would become your priority when your time isn’t occupied elsewhere?

Let’s see what we can do about that… in my next blog.

In my last blog I asked you how your resolutions and intentions were panning out for you, and I’m still interested to know – are you still moving forward with your goals? Do you still feel excited and motivated? I hope so!

So, let’s keep that going, shall we?

Common Pitfalls

Of course, there are some common pitfalls we need to avoid when we’re trying to implement our resolutions. We all know that and we’re probably all guilty of having fallen prey to these common mistakes. So how do we avoid them?

A super common pitfall is losing sight of WHY you want to achieve that particular goal. You need to remind yourself regularly why your goal is important to you and how it will feel having achieved it in order to keep your sense of purpose steady.  

How about if you set a goal that is impossible to measure? Often this is simply a case of rephrasing. So, if your goal is to ‘make more money’, how are you going to measure your daily or weekly results? It’s pretty intangible. Instead, try, ‘I will focus on more revenue generating tasks’, that way you can actually plan those tasks and a clear road to the outcome you want. It’s measurable and achievable.

Starting from a place of negativity is also going to make it impossible for you to stay on track. Our brains believe what we tell them, so how are you meant to achieve your goal if you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough? If you already think you’re failing, you’re setting yourself up for future failure. So, instead, be kind to yourself. Be grateful for where you are on your journey and get pumped for where you’re headed. And remember, it is a journey. You are good enough; you do deserve it and you can achieve it.   

And this one is sure to make your life harder than it needs to be – having more than one resolution. It’s tempting to list down all the things we want to achieve and try to set everything in motion in one fell swoop, kidding ourselves that the sense of motivation we feel at this moment in time will continue on. We all have plenty of things we want to achieve but trying to start everything in one go will put so much pressure on. It’ll also make it harder for you to maintain focus. So, focus on one thing. One goal.

How to trick our brain into action

So now you have your one goal and you’re avoiding those pitfalls, how are you going to maintain your focus and momentum on a daily basis? I’ll tell you how, small habits.

Creating habits is a sure-fire way to increase the likelihood of success. When you create a habit, you’re removing the ‘decision making’ part of the process. You simply DO. Think about brushing your teeth every day. It’s likely you have a specific time and way of doing this each day – do you sit and ponder whether you should do it or feel a sense of procrastination? No, you just do it. And that’s the level of habit you’re gunning for when it comes to your daily routine.

Research shows that it’s easier for people to replace a habit with another habit or to attach a habit to an already existing habit.

For this to work, you need to be realistic about what habit you’re creating. Make sure the task is achievable, firstly. And take into consideration any extenuating factors that may mean you can’t perform this habit as a part of your daily routine. Once you’ve nailed this, you can start to blend your new habit into your routine.

What’s more, once this habit has formed, you can start to incorporate another new habit if you want to. Another goal you have. And over time, you will be able to blend small habits which are taking you towards your goals into your daily routine, bypassing the procrastination and overwhelm, making it increasingly likely you’re moving forwards consistently on the road to success!

Proven tips to step into simple abundance

Repeat after me – one thing at a time.

In order to get the best from yourself and enhance the rate of success, you need clarity and focus. Pulling yourself off in different directions will not help you get to where you need to be.

This doesn’t mean you can’t have more than one goal you’re working towards; it means you need to have clear processes and a structure in place to ensure your focus remains on one thing at any given time.

I’m a big fan of the Pomodoro Technique, something I’ve covered in a previous blog post. This technique is great as it eliminates context switching within the timeframe you’re working on each individual task. Which means you maintain focus. One thing at a time.

Here’s to creating simple abundance for 2021!

I’m a big fan of January and the renewed energy, focus, and motivation that seems to accompany it. People often prefer to start new ventures at the beginning of a week, or month, so it makes sense that people LOVE to focus on their goals and start as they mean to go on when January comes around. New year, new me, right?

How’s it going now?

So now that January is more than ½ way through, I want to know – how’s it all going for you? Have you maintained that momentum or lost your stride? Did you start off feeling super energetic, determined, and disciplined but now that’s waned, or have you still got that driving force behind you, pushing you forward?

The fact is, it’s hard to keep momentum when we’re fuelled by rejuvenated excitement and good intentions alone. As the novelty begins to wear thin, so too does our motivation and that sense of ‘oomph’ we had at the start becomes more of a ‘humph’.

I’m guessing those of you who are still going strong have some tricks up your sleeve – i.e., actual systems in place that enable you to maintain focus, clarity, and remain accountable to your vision. Am I right?  

Tips & Advice

Last year, amongst other topics, I wrote about time management and how routine sets you free, how to develop a rhythm that works for you, how to create focus, and how to simplify your life (without working harder), so for some solid advice and awesome techniques to keep you consistently working towards your goals, you should check out my previous blog posts – you won’t regret it, especially if you’re struggling right now.

One of the things that often impedes progress, is overwhelm. Now I want to be clear here, the overwhelm comes from looking too far ahead at all the things you need to do in order to reach your goal rather than concentrating on the task in hand. There’s a huge difference between this and actually visualizing your goal, what that feels like etc.

So, with that in mind, if you want to keep moving towards success and abundance – the trick is to bring the future into the NOW!

Take some time to feel out where you are right now. Now, imagine you’ve already achieved your goal. You’ve accomplished all that you needed to in order to get that success you wanted. What does it feel like? What does it look like? What’s different? Is it wonderful? Do you feel joy? You tell me…

And in doing this daily, you will feel that sense of purpose, what drives you, why you want it and what it’s going to be like when you get it.

It’s so important to have clear reminders every day, so that our paths don’t get fogged up and our goals become lost behind the murkiness of daily life. Clarity, focus, vision. 

In my next blog we’re going to be looking at some more practical strategies to move the resolution needle ahead and stay on track.

After Mastering Your Mindset (see last blog), the next step is…to take a step!

When my clients start to Streamline and Vision, their minds go big and grandiose really quickly. It’s either that, or we are barely getting off the starting line. And there’s a lot of middle ground to cover.

To create the right steps for you, start here.

1. Define the end result. (Hint, go big, then consider “what can I change in 90 days?) You want the “end result” to be a stretch, yet manageable).
2. After you have landed on your end result, ask, “what’s the step before that?”
3. Once you have the step before the end result defined, ask yourself, “what’s the step before that?”
4. Continue this process for as long as you need to until you arrive at “today.”

Small steps create big results. But not all at once. You CAN have it all, yes…. just…not ALL.AT.ONCE. It’s one of our biggest issues. We get excited, we start, we go along, then “life throws us a curveball” and that’s the end of it. Someone gets sick. It’s a holiday. It’s “the holidays.” We lose our electricity. Our mom pays us a surprise visit. Who knows? Excuses are easy.

Grit is hard. Focusing ahead to discover what might get in your way is a game changer. A common misconception is that by thinking about this, you “invite problems into your life.” Quite the opposite. Do airplane pilots invite crash landings? I hope not. And it’s a good thing they know the drill should a problem occur.

So, picture yourself, moving along, and it gets to be… let’s say… Valentine’s day. You have been moving ahead with your New Life (and business if that’s your desire) – your Simplified and Streamlined life – for about 6 weeks. What might come up for you? Are you tired? You most likely are. Our bodies do not like too much change too quickly. They LOVE homeostasis. That’s a fancy word for “keep me the same so I stay safe and alive.”

So, create for yourself a series of if/then statements. Our brains love those.

For example:

IF my mom asks me to come and stay for a few days THEN I will say “(what will you say?)”

IF I want to eat a Whole Heart of Valentine’s Chocolate THEN I will (what will you do?)

IF you want to quit working out (I’m at a plateau on this scale, I might as well go back to “eating normally”) THEN I will (what will you change, if anything?)

OK! So now, you have looked at your Mindset and some Steps. It’s time to sign up for the 2021 Vision Workshop. Why would you miss that? {insert link to sales page here]

In Simple Abundance for 2021 and always,

Carol