In the U.S., most of us will enjoy an extended weekend very soon. Some of us may already be away for the week- I know 2 people in that category personally. The question I have is….what will you do or not do, and how will you feel about those decisions?
Too much free time can spell DANGER.
Today I helped a client Design Her Long Weekend. When you have too much “unplanned time,” do you feel that it’s “wasted”? Do you “not know where the time does? Do you feel like it’s a waste- so you tend to fill up your time with “productive” ventures instead? This is common and was the case with my client.
My client and I focused on a strategy that I’d like to share: Majoring and Minoring. Think of your college undergraduate years. Perhaps you had a major and a minor. By default, more time and energy is expended on your major, right? In work and in life, we mostly find ourselves with more to-do’s than will fit in our bucket. So, run yourself through your weekend. What would you WANT it to look like…if you had it YOUR way? That’s right…be selfish. Start there. Then, add in the non-negotiables. Really look- are they truly “givens” or is there any wiggle-room if they don’t fit your version of the ideal long weekend?
Set your intention, make some plans that are needed, and accept the outcome. You will find that the power of intention is, in fact, very powerful.
Next week is December? Forget the goals-I am writing off the year- see you in January!
Thanksgiving can be a quiet time, if you dare. When others are watching football or taking that after dinner nap, you can take advantage of that quiet time to focus on yourself and your personal and professional goals. Strategic and creative thinking requires downtime.
Some questions to ask yourself are:
How “big” do your want your December Holidays to be?
How will you address your “important, but not urgent” tasks in December, so that you hit the ground running on January 2?
Two strategies to achieve the goals you identify:
Honor your desired outcome with the “pause and reflect” method. How? When a request comes in, decide that you will “pause and reflect” rather that furnishing an immediate answer. This pause allows more holistic and strategic thinking than may otherwise happen.
Use the “if/then” habit: Help implement the strategy above by bringing it directly into your life. For example, IF my employer asks me to work late, THEN I will check with my spouse before agreeing to it.
A little Thanksgiving Planning can go a long way to enjoying the holidays and jumpstarting January. Be well, enjoy every bite, and above all – express gratitude.
Most people I am running into these days are lamenting the end of summer.
One woman I saw at a networking event told me she wished August lasted forever. Yes, perhaps. When we live life fully, though, we have fewer regrets. My work helps empower people to achieve more each day- so that those truly important items ARE done- and that includes enjoying summer YOUR way. Sue West and I are back: Listen here: Get Ready for Fall – August 9, 2013 or read on.
Sue: Where did the summer go? I am hearing that question a lot.
Carol: Right. Most people I know perceive summer as if they were still a child…it can somehow seem “endless” since it can be void of structure. Sue: Yes…and if we are lucky enough to have a certain amount of freedom from “the regular grind” in summer, this affords our brain to recharge and come out more creative on September 1st. So let’s Design Our Fall!
Carol: Hi, this is Carol Williams, productivity coach at EpS, Efficient Productivity Systems.
Sue: And this is Sue West, Life Transitions Coach and AD/HD specialist
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Carol: Last time we talked about the ‘Summer Shoulds.’ We talked about how to re-frame those summer days, to determine what you Really Want out of those days. Now, we are wrapping up summer and looking at fall. The Back to School ads are out in full swing, and the August air brings a twinge of a chill into the air. Thoughts turn to sweaters, soccer, and Halloween. Perhaps this impending season change evokes a feeling a sense of a new start.
Sue: We have 4 tips for you today to help you with this transition. We’ll look at What Gets In Your Way of having a fall that works for YOU.
First, losing your adult children to college or to their first apartment can be the emotions which get in your way. Your kids are graduated from high school and this is your first Fall without them at home; they are off to college.
So, first things: Set up a schedule or Skype time when you can stay connected or get on Facebook. Be where they are. Second, set up some dates with friends, with couples, and even go on a retreat by yourself. Fill your time, at first, with activities, if you think you’ll have a difficult time.
After a while, though, it’s not about how to fill your time until they return home. They’ll be changed when they do. So now is a wonderful time to review what YOU love to do – hobbies, volunteerism, perhaps start a new or another business. What do you want so that you can expand your life?
Carol: The second tip is “don’t forget soccer”.
Soccer is fun, but don't forget it's a time commitment
Last year, I found myself driving all over New Hampshire for my oldest son’s soccer games. I did not realize how much dedication this was going to take on my part. So this tip, really, is all about taking your “sideboards” into account when Designing Your Day so that you are not surprised when they do, and they will, impact your day and your available time. So, if you have children, take a good look at what activities they will be involved in and how that will impact your time. When you receive the game schedule, take it out, and transfer all those games, including prep and driving time, to your calendar. You’ll be glad you did.
Sue: If you have AD/HD, transitions into different seasons with their different schedules are especially challenging. Switching gears is just a struggle. But there’s definitely hope.
Take some time and try this exercise. You can sit quietly and visualize, or take a walk, or sit down and write about it. What you’re going to do is imagine it’s the first day of your new schedule – you might be grand babysitting, or getting your own children back onto a Fall schedule.
Imagine or write down every step of your day, from what time you wake up to what you wear – very specific so you can sense the whole experience and almost live it. Write out your routines for the morning, routines for the evening. And start using them a week or two before your new schedule starts, to give yourself some practice time and some stress-free time to get used to a new schedule.
Carol: The last tip is also child related. If you have a child or children at school, the likelihood is high that they will get sick since they all get back together, the weather gets colder and doors get shut tightly. Plan a little flexibility into your schedule. Have a plan B ready for when little Johnny wakes up with a fever.
Plan for inevitable illness
Take a minute and think back to last fall when crisis hit, how you solved it, and how that worked or did not work for you. You can plan for it now, which will take off the stress in the moment when you have another parent to drive, when you have already set yourself up to work from home, etc.
Sue: To wrap up, we just provided 4 examples of What might Get In Your way when designing your day in the fall. In the next podcast we will dive deeper into these “stuck” places, and as we wrap up 2013, we will continue to move through the Design Your Days process. At the end of about 12 podcasts, you will look back and find that we’ve provided an excellent overview of our process.
If you want don’t want to wait for 12 podcasts…come join us on Friday Oct 18that the Center for Health Promotion in Concord for the next Design Your Days Workshop. Check our Facebook page for registration information.
If that date does not work, we offer the Design Your Days workshop to YOUR group of business owners, so please contact one of us for more information and to get us on your schedule.
Do you ever feel like you have one foot on either side of a crevice? Do you dance, do you jump, do you fall through? If you’ve ever felt conflicted, listen and/or read on, to get clear in 9 minutes. From Sue West and myself, the “Design Your Days Duo!”
Sue: “I really want to focus on my growing business that is my passion. But I need to pay my bills. I feel stuck.”
Carol: “I sell equipment that earns me a good living, but my true business dream is not much more than that- it’s just a pipe dream at the moment. What should I do?” Carol: Do any of these sound familiar to you? If so, you have found the right place. This is Carol Williams, Productivity Coach at EpS, Efficient Productivity Systems.
Sue: And this is Sue West, Life Transitions Coach and AD/HD specialist
We have joined together as the Design Your Days Duo for this series of audio interviews to give you short, “use today” pieces of advice, in 5 to 8 minutes.
Carol: Last time we spoke about Clarity as it relates to becoming better organized and shared some A-HA moments when our workshop participants began Designing Their Days. When we get clear, we open ourselves up to the possibilities that are often hidden just below the surface.
Sue: Today we are going to address 2 questions- because those questions, or questions like those, could pertain to you. If you are a creative entrepreneur, or, if you think you want to be a creative entrepreneur, you might have those questions locked up inside.
Carol: When we work with someone in the Design Your Days framework, we ask, What Gets in Your Way? This is the first step in seeking clarity. If you think about the questions above, they are really pointing to WHAT might be getting in each person’s way.
Sue: Let’s start with the first question. Growth, new passions but then ah, yes, reality strikes.
Try a couple of important ways to direct your thinking: (1) a reality check on the financial gap (2) Where’s the passion, really? (3) Focus – defining that more clearly and (4) Stuck – and how you’ll know that you’re beginning to get Unstuck.
Here are questions to answer which will help you figure out how to create enough time for your business, and also get your bills paid:
Get clear on what amount of income you need to pay for things you NEED, not want. This gets you two important pieces of information: What’s the financial gap between your business income and your bills. But also it asks you to put some “skin in the game,” by identifying if there are things you think you need in your business or in your life, but really, they are “wants,” not “needs.” Liz Pullam Weston writes about this practice. This is the reality picture. And keep track – especially if you’re not now – even of cash or debit out of pocket. Most people spend more than they think.
Get specific and clear on your passion: What are you passionate about, in particular – what facets or activities? Are there other creative ways to deliver on the passion or use similar skills, but in a part time paying job? Think chapters or phases of time. Can you do something else part time, for pay, which helps with the bills. It’s the combination of part time and growing business that might help your situation.
Get clear on what you mean by “I want to focus.” How is it that you are “focusing” now on your business? What does focus look like to you – the number of days or time of day? Look at the time and the activities. Are they payoff activities? Again, this is where tracking can come in; keep it simple, but effective. What can you do differently, do less of, or do later on, if the activity is not, today, making you income? Saying “no, not now” is not the same as saying “no, forever.”
Talk with others or with a coach and figure out whether you are maximizing the time you DO have on your growing business.
When you think you are stuck, how “a little less stuck” would feel – how would you KNOW that things ARE improving. Do you have a plan of ANY sort, so that you know when you HAVE made progress, when you ARE headed in the “upwards” direction, so that “stuck” begins to feel “less stuck.”
Carol: Thanks Sue…great ideas. Now, on to the second question. This person sells equipment, and that person makes a good living from selling it. But- boredom can prevail when your job does not excite you. When the passion dips, productivity often dips too. Procrastination enters- and sales can plummet. How can a creative entrepreneur follow his or her dreams while earning a living? Do we all need to be “starving artists?”
No. The trick is to keep your passion alive, while continuing to earn your living. This does not mean “throwing the baby out with the bathwater.” Have you ever heard the saying, “yes, you can have it all, but not all at once?” Tracking progress can really help, and here are some ideas as to how that could happen.
Bookend your weeks. At the beginning of your week, map it out. What one thing can you do to move your creative project forward? Can you block out a couple of hours on Wednesday night to do x, y or z? At the end of your week, evaluate. How did it go? Did you do it? If not, why not? Could you have changed anything? Learn, and move on.
Bookend your months. After 4 or so weeks of bookending, what has been done? How far did you THINK you’d get, versus how far you actually got? Learn, assess, move on.
Bookend each quarter. After 3 months of doing steps one and two, you should have a little data. You may be much further ahead, or much further behind, than you thought you might be. But goals that are measured are far more likely to be achieved. Think, pause, and measure for success.
Carol:
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We all hear about doing “more with less” or “more with the same.” We continue to reinvent ourselves to keep up, grow, or succeed. We are told to grow, change, or die.
How do we get the most done, in the least amount of time, completing the tasks that will make the most significant difference?
$ix Tips for $uccess in 2013
KNOW your passion and purpose. The most successful businesspeople are those whose vision is closely aligned with reality. What are our BIG goals? Are you VERY CLEAR about them? Here are two examples situations and what you might do about each:
Do you want to increase company revenue by 30% this year? Do you have a plan to do that? How will you measure your success? Now is the time to put those metrics into place. If you cannot do this internally, seek help from SCORE or hire a private business coach or consultant – immediately.
Have you been in your job for a number of years, say 10 to 15 or 20? Has more and more work been piled up on you? Do you now work 12 hours daily when you formerly completed the required tasks in 8 hours? Do you feel fortunate to “just have a job?” Are you feeling burned out? Do you- really- want a new job or a more balanced life, but you dismiss these items? Now is the time to pay attention to these feelings and take action. You have more control than you think. Shift your mindset from that of “victim” to one of “what choices do I have” and you will start to see immediate improvement. Then follow the tips that follow for even more success!
2. Plan the work, and work the plan.
“Bookend” your days, weeks, months, quarters, and years. What holds the books on a shelf, straight and true? Bookends! By bookending, I am referring to checking in with yourself at the beginning and ending of each day. Allow at least 15 minutes at the beginning and then at the end of the day for this. What are my priorities today? What has come in? Do the new items that come in align with my priorities? If not, what is in my control, or out of my control? At the end of the day, review your day and think though your priorities for the following day. This simple exercise will relieve stress and increase your sense of control- and you will slowly begin to do what matters most to you. Repeat this for the beginning and end of your week, your month, your quarter, and your year. It’s addicting, and it works.
3. Map it.
For many, a strict schedule is a recipe for disaster. If every minute of every day is perfectly planned, no margin for flexibility is allowed. Simply put, work life is not static. Many businesspeople resist scheduling, citing this as the reason. They are right. The answer? Time mapping. To create a time map, take out your “thick crayon”. Think in terms of “blocks of time” or “rhythm of a typical day” versus minute by minute scheduling. Think in terms of color. Color if that works better for you. If you are a creative or visual type- liking to “lay out” your work, try color.
First, ask yourself “what time of day do I have the most energy?” For many people, this is the morning. Let’s assume this is the case for you. For one morning, block out, in color, time for your most important (but not “urgent”) task. This is likely a task that will take you toward your “big goal” (see tip one). Treat this colored block like you would any important client. It is, in fact, as important as your most important client.
Try coloring in only one block for the first 3 weeks. Then try two blocks for the second 3 weeks. After that, you can begin thinking in “rhythm”. When someone asks you about meeting, and you know the mornings are your creative time, you can ask them if they have any afternoons available. You will begin to feel more “in control”, get more of your important tasks done, and have more energy at the end of every day.
4. Truly accept that there are really only 24 hours in every day: consciously decide how to use them. Once you accept that time itself is fixed, that is, you cannot “manage time” but can only manage yourself around your time, you realize that the choice is yours. Are you happy with your 60 hour work week? Or, would you like to see 40 hours again? Try these suggestions:
i. Eliminate: work only on the projects that will have the largest, most powerful impact on your work. Work on those items that align most closely with your “big goals.”
ii. Delegate: Be sure that when delegating, you select the right person, be clear, confirm understanding of the task, and identify a check in date and time.
iii. Abbreviate: Did you know that multitasking actually decreases your productivity by about 20%? When you slowly bring back focus, to work on one task at a time, your productivity will skyrocket. Reducing multitasking by only 20% can yield 6 weeks of time per year.
Embrace technology, but don’t ignore the basics. I love my gadgets. Really. But, gadgets alone do not help you with your productivity at work. Why? We can get so caught up in “the system” that we lose track of time, priorities, etc., and we fall right back into overwhelm. That said, some of my favorite technological gadgets follow:
The i-devices: All of them. I love iphone, ipad, ipod touch, icloud, siri. They “just work” (at least most times)! Although many “to do” programs and apps are out there, and more appear daily, “reminders” on the i-devices works perfectly. Siri, the voice recognition software, will take commands to “remind you” to call a person at 2 pm, remember your item when you leave work (yes, it knows where you are when you allow this option), etc. It can act as a personal assistant of sorts.
Google Calendar: The cloud-based calendar, share-able with the world and integrates with others’ google calendars.
Dropbox: Cloud-based storage, particularly useful when working remotely and/or with committees. Options to make folders shared, private, public.
I never seem to be able to get to my most important goal. I am too busy.
I try, but I keep hitting roadblocks. Maybe I am not “cut out” for this.
Carol: Hi, this is Carol Williams, Productivity Specialist at EpS, Efficient Productivity Systems.
Sue: And this is Sue West, Life Transitions Coach and AD/HD specialist. We have joined together for this series of audio interviews to give you short, “use today” pieces of advice, in 5 to 8 minutes.
Today’s is called “What’s Your Plan B?” but first …
Carol: We’d like to share some exciting news, in case you did not catch the last podcast.
Sue and I are rolling out a new workshop called DESIGN YOUR DAYS. Just 90 minutes with us will set you in the direction for your work and personal life that works for YOU. Our first Design Your Days workshop will be at the Hampton Hotel in Colchester, VT near Burlington, on May 2 and is part of the WBON (women business owner’s network) which is a statewide, Vermont business organization. We’d love for you to attend so watch our blogs or social media sites for information!Click here for their site.
To read our advice, just continue on in this blog entry.
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Sue: Onto our podcast tips. Our last two podcasts focused on Self Care. This can be the root of many productivity issues. When we don’t sleep well at night, when we allow our exercise routine to take a back seat for an extended period of time, when we allow others to set our priorities- we neglect ourselves. Keeping this point at the top of mind will subconsciously allow you to begin turning it around. The next question to ask yourself is- what’s getting in your way of making a little progress?
Carol: We tend to ask our listeners a lot of questions, don’t we? Well in that spirit I have three more:
Do you have to “have enough time” to write the entire book, and know exactly what you want to say before you begin?
Do you have to have all the right cleaning tools before you begin organizing that spare room?
Do you feel so overwhelmed by cleaning your home that you think, why bother? It will just get messed up again and I don’t even know where to start.
Sue: Thanks, Carol. That sounds little like perfectionist behavior to me.
To our listeners: Has anyone ever called you a perfectionist?
Perhaps you don’t wash your car because you don’t have the right wax and you really want to wax it at the same time, and by the way the sun will be setting soon anyway, maybe I should just catch up on some reading instead?
Perfectionism often leads to procrastination.
It’s time to shift our thinking. Try, what’s my plan B? If I don’t have the right wax, so what? Can I wax using what I have? Can I wax just half of the car? Won’t that be better than nothing? Or when can I go to the local car place and get them to do it for me!
Carol: OK onto some tips! Let’s think about re-framing your attitudes- to help you succeed:
Think of one tiny step you could accomplish toward your big goal. For example, if you know you have trouble sleeping, and you think you need to go to the doctor, and can’t find time to call, can’t find time to go to an appointment, don’t have the right insurance, what could you do instead? Could you find 15 minutes per night to meditate right before bed, try that for 3 weeks and if no improvement then take another step? The key here is thinking about what you CAN do vs. all the reasons you CAN’T do something. Those little steps could be called Plan B.
I want to send my kids to camp XYZ but I don’t know how I will get them there or how I will afford it. What can be plan B? Could you begin to look into the other options? Could you write a Facebook post asking other parents to do a “round robin” home based camp with other kids their age in your area? Time to think creatively. Let go of “it has to be this way” and watch new answers start coming your way.
Sue: My first suggestion is an anti procrastination exercise which comes to us from a client who had great success with this. This is useful for people who say “I can talk myself out of anything,” or “I can’t get started – the perfectionism or procrastination gets me too often.”
The six questions were developed by David Burns, and are in his book, The Feeling Good Handbook. Essentially, the questions have you weigh the advantages and disadvantages by writing them down so you can see what you’re thinking– and it’s amazing how well this works.
My second suggestion will be of interest to those who need lots of variety in their days. I’m going to suggest you embrace the variety. Work it into whatever self-care you’re trying to bring into your life.
For example, you want to start doing some sort of exercise, yet you just imagine how boring it’s going to be, so you stop before you start.
How about this instead: Mondays, you walk on your own. Wednesdays you walk with a neighbor. Saturday morning, you walk while you talk to your daughter, who is at college. The other days you don’t walk; you ride your bike somewhere around town.
The variety is in both which exercise you take on and how or with whom you actually take it on. The important piece is here is to reach out, ask people and get time and people set up so they help you get out each day.
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