Author: Carol Williams

Feeling stuck after rejection? Discover strategies to break free from the patterns holding you back.

Do you ever feel like doors keep slamming in your face? You’re out here running your own business, trying to make it work, sending emails, making calls… and nothing. Either you hear crickets, or people say things like, “I can’t think of anyone who needs what you offer” or “I’ll get back to you,” and then… silence. Yeah, I get it—it’s tough, and honestly, it sucks.

Here’s the reality: we have to sell our services if we want our businesses to thrive. Rejection is part of the deal, and even though we know that, it still feels awful, especially when you have a busy, neurodivergent brain (with or without ADHD). If you’re nodding along, you might have experienced something called Rejection Sensitivity.

For many of us neurodiverse folks, this hits hard. Some people even get labeled as HSPs—Highly Sensitive Persons. It’s real, and it’s heavy. I’m linking an article about how to cope with this, but first, let’s dive into what’s happening in our brains.

Our brains LOVE patterns. They don’t care if the patterns are helpful or harmful—they just want to stick to what’s familiar. So, if you’ve experienced rejection over and over, your brain starts making a pattern out of it. It’s not about whether you’re “doing it wrong” or “too much,” it’s about your brain following the same loop.

Here’s the good news: you can outsmart your brain. Even with rejection sensitivity, we can break the cycle. If you’re used to feeling like you’re “too loud,” “interrupt too much,” or “don’t take social cues well,” this is especially important for you.

There are four things you can do to manage rejection sensitivity, and they all start with an “R”: Recognize, Respond, Reflect, and Reframe.

1. Recognize
   First, notice how your body feels when you hear something you didn’t want to hear. Are you tense? Clenched? Pay attention to those physical signs—it’s a huge first step.
2. Respond
   Once you’ve noticed the tension, do something to shake it off—literally. Stretch, shake your arms, or take a deep breath. You’re not trying to think yet; you’re just getting your body to relax. Trust me, loosening up your body helps clear your mind.
3. Reflect
   Now that you’ve calmed your body, it’s time to reflect. Ask yourself: “Is what I’m thinking really true?” Maybe you’ve been telling yourself stories like, “This will never work,” or “That person must not like me.” Dig deeper—often, those stories aren’t the whole truth.
4. Reframe
   Finally, it’s time to reframe. Once you’ve questioned the stories your brain made up, you can start to shift your perspective. This step takes more thought, but it’s powerful. Journaling, talking to a coach, or even taking a quiet walk can help you get there. When you start reframing how you see yourself and your situation, real change happens.

Let me give you a personal example. Before I owned my house, I didn’t see myself as a homeowner. So naturally, I kept getting in my own way when it came to saving money, applying for a mortgage, and handling the responsibilities that come with owning a home. But once I shifted my mindset to “I am a homeowner,” things fell into place. The same can happen in business. When we boldly put ourselves out there, things shift.

When I offer my services, I make it clear: “I’m here to shake up your thinking.” It takes boldness to say that, but the more I give, the more confident I become, and the more people respond positively. And when I ask, “Do you know anyone who could benefit from this?” they don’t just shrug—they know exactly who could use my help.

Speaking of bold moves, we’re almost at the end of October, and that means there’s still time to grab my Libra Birthday Gift—five powerful questions that will challenge you and help you think bigger. Fair warning: if you’re not ready to push yourself and grow, this isn’t for you. But if you’re ready to take a leap, then it’s time to sign up!

So, what’s your next step to being bolder and braver? How are you going to risk hearing “no” in the next few days? Let me know in the comments below or sign up for that call!

You’ve got this!

p.s. If you are wondering what the rejections might be all about, WATCH THESE PEOPLE so you can get into your prospect’s head!

Re-inflate on a regular basis so you don’t become pancake flat

As solopreneurs, many of us have figured out when we’re most productive. For some, it’s those quiet, early morning hours. But what happens when life gets in the way, especially when caregiving demands compete for that precious morning energy?

When your most productive time is also the time you’re needed most as a caregiver, your priorities shift. And that’s okay. You do what you have to do—take care of those who cannot care for themselves. But at the end of that caregiving, you’re left drained, with a mile-long to-do list staring you in the face. What now?

Here’s what: you rest.

Rest is not just productive—it’s vital. As caregivers, we often operate at a deficit, giving our last bit of energy to others and leaving ourselves with so little. Over time, this builds up, and suddenly, it’s not just one night of poor sleep or one skipped meal. It’s a series of “not enoughs” that compound, making us more tired, more stressed, and less effective.

What you truly need is time to re-inflate. Not reshuffle. Not “balance.” You need to intentionally fill yourself back up so that you can keep going. Without that rest, you’re operating from an empty tank. So, what do you do when your most creative time is also the time you’re most needed?

Here are three ideas to help you manage:

Reduce your creative time to a shorter duration. If you can only get 15 minutes in the morning, make those 15 minutes count. Let go of the guilt and just use what you have.

Ask for help. Sometimes we think we have to do everything ourselves, but there are people around you who can step in, even if just for a short time, to take over caregiving duties.

Honor your need to rest. Defer your creative work to another time if possible. Your well-being comes first, and without rest, your creativity won’t shine like it can.

The most important thing to remember here is that YOU are in charge. You get to stop, plan, and create a new way of being. Over time, as you build in intentional pauses and self-care, you’ll find a rhythm that allows you to thrive in both roles: as a business owner and a caregiver.

So, give yourself permission to re-inflate. Rest is not just a luxury—it’s your most productive tool. And with that rhythm of rest and work, you can create a life that feels balanced, even when it’s anything but!

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Feeling Overwhelmed? Focus on What Truly Matters

In our hustle-driven world, it’s all too easy to get lost in the chaos of daily tasks. We often think the secret to effective planning is simply mapping out our week—scheduling every minute, juggling multiple priorities, and checking off endless to-do lists. Yet, in the pursuit of productivity, we often overlook what truly matters: our “north star” direction and “goals.”

It’s time to confront a counterintuitive truth: keeping your goals front and center can actually make planning your week easier, not harder. Most people stash their goals away in dusty boxes, viewing them as untouchable ideals. But in reality, they should be our guiding stars, illuminating the path through our busy lives.

When you’re standing on your head, juggling tasks, and multitasking like a pro, the notion of reflecting on your goals may seem impossible. However, this is precisely where the magic happens. Slowing down to think about your goals doesn’t derail your progress; it actually accelerates it. By pausing to consider what you genuinely want to achieve, you gain clarity and focus. This allows you to streamline your tasks, making decisions about where to direct your energy.

Instead of drowning in the myth of multitasking, which often leads to scattered efforts and burnout, focus on one or two key goals each week. By aligning your daily tasks with these objectives, you create a coherent plan that prioritizes what truly matters. It’s about working smarter, not harder.

So, the next time you sit down to plan your week, take a moment to reconnect with your goals. Write them down, visualize them, and let them guide your decisions. You’ll find that with a clearer purpose, your planning becomes less of a chore and more of a strategic exercise. Embrace the counterintuitive approach of slowing down to speed up, and watch how your week transforms from a chaotic scramble into a focused journey towards your aspirations.

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What If You Don’t Know Your Big Goals?

Now, maybe you’re reading this and thinking, But what if I don’t even know what my goals are? Maybe you’re trying to make ends meet, keep your family organized, and still find time for your passions—whether that’s playing music, crafting, or some other creative pursuit. You might even wonder how you can possibly have a strategic goal in the midst of all this.

Don’t worry—I’ve got you covered. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and unsure of your direction, I can help you sort through the chaos and dial into what really matters.

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I can’t wait to meet you and help you transform your approach. Let’s work together to make your weeks smoother and your goals more achievable. Happy birthday to me; happy success to YOU!

Watch Erica….at 2:27 she talks about how her business skyrocketed when she took the rest of her life seriously…one area feeds on the other: 

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by a never-ending list of things to do—organizing your office, setting goals, juggling personal responsibilities, and trying to keep everything afloat—you’re not alone. Between mom’s doctor appointment, letting the cat out, or remembering to post on social media, it’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in tasks without actually getting the important things done. Exhaustion creeps in, and yet, somehow, the to-do list keeps growing.

Sound familiar? Keep reading because I’ve got three key tips to help you regain control and boost your productivity. Plus, we’ll dive even deeper into this during the Overachievers Club on October 7th at 12:00 PM Eastern—completely free!

Tip 1: You Don’t Have to Know It All to Start

A common mistake I see is people feeling the need to organize everything before they can start working. They build endless to-do lists or spreadsheets, thinking they have to get every single task written down before they can take action. The truth is, that mindset keeps you stuck in inertia.

The key is to start small. You don’t need the full picture to begin. We’ll dive more into the “how” on Monday, but for now, let this sink in: you don’t need to do it all at once. Start with just one step, however small.

Tip 2: Build from the Bottom of the Productivity Success Cake

Let’s talk about the Productivity Success Cake—a system that works every time. The bottom layer is Health, the middle is Environment, and the top layer is where Productivity and Celebration meet. Most people want to skip to the top layer and start with productivity, but it won’t work if the foundation isn’t there.

There are five key areas at the base of the cake that should each be at least a five out of 10 before you move forward. If you haven’t yet, take the productivity quiz on the unscatterme.com to see where you stand. Don’t skip the basics!

Tip 3: Don’t Go It Alone

When you’re overwhelmed, it can feel like you’re all on your own. But don’t fall into the trap of isolation. Whether it’s reaching out to friends, joining a mastermind group, or working with a coach, support systems are key to success. There’s no need to carry the burden solo. Lean into your community for advice, encouragement, and accountability.

Join us in the Overachievers Club for support and cheerleading as you tackle your to-dos. Doing it alone is a recipe for burnout—together, we’re unstoppable!

Workshop Reminder: Don’t forget to join me on October 7th at 12 PM Eastern for the next Overachievers Club meeting! We’ll tackle your productivity challenges together and create a plan for success. Sign up on my website under Overachievers Club. See you there!

Erin recently worked with me. When she began, she was actually resenting her clients, because she was so burned out. Through our work together, she slowly allowed herself to set boundaries that honored HER and now she is exercising, taking weekends off, and feeling much more free.

Be like Erin. Watch here: https://fathom.video/share/W1LyEWFy_TGF5nwgxx2W3cQCfLHKX2T6

If you like those results you will love the next step…the free Overachievers Club. Come have fun with us.

The challenges of balancing creativity and organization in solopreneurship

BEFORE WE DIVE INTO THAT TOPIC, PLEASE BE REMINDED….

The big day is tomorrow!

On September 23rd from 11:00 AM to 1:00 PM (Eastern Time) dial into results in your hands-on workshop: Turn Up the Flame Without Burning Out. We’ll dive deep into everything we’ve talked about and help you stop overthinking, craft a concrete plan, and stick to a schedule.

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NOW…meet my friend, the Scattered Scarlet. She’s usually organized, but when it comes to running her business, she sometimes feels lost—digging through old documents, searching for plans that don’t exist, and feeling like her business life isn’t as together as it should be. Maybe this sounds like you, or maybe you’re just curious about how to bring more focus into your business. Either way, you’re in the right place.

Start now to turn up the flame in your business without burning out with five tips that can help you go from scattered to streamlined, all while keeping the passion alive in your work.

1. Rest: The First Step to Reigniting Your Focus

The first tip might surprise you: rest. We’re not machines, and even though there are times when we need to push hard, rest is crucial to keeping your energy high over the long haul. Without rest, burnout is inevitable, and that’s the last thing you want when trying to build a business you love.

Make sure you take breaks, get enough sleep, and give yourself downtime to recharge. Ask yourself: What are the non-negotiables in your life that help you rest and recover?

2. Play in Moderation: A Double-Edged Sword

Play is important, but too much of it can be just as dangerous as too little. I’ve had clients who get so wrapped up in taking time for themselves—whether it’s walks on the beach or other relaxing activities—that they forget about their business goals. On the other hand, some solopreneurs play too little, and that’s when life becomes all work and no joy.

Find the balance that works for you. Ask yourself: Are you playing too much or not enough?

3. Movement: Fuel Your Mind and Body

Movement is essential—not just for your body but for your mind too. When we sit too long, our bodies produce cortisol, which can create stress and make it harder to focus. Experts recommend moving at least once an hour. Whether it’s stretching, walking, or just standing up for a bit, it helps keep your mind sharp.

What are you doing to stay active throughout your workday?

4. Organization: Planning for Success

Let’s talk about organization—something Scattered Scarlet struggles with. If you want to turn your scattered energy into productive energy, you need a plan. That means carving out time to set daily, weekly, and monthly goals that align with your bigger vision.

As simple as it sounds, creating time to plan is often the hardest step. It’s easy to get distracted by trying to please everyone else or tackle every little task. The key is efficiency and making intentional choices.

Ask yourself: Are you prioritizing the time to plan your success?

5. Focus: Small, Consistent Steps to Achieve Your Vision

Finally, focus is the secret sauce to turning your plans into reality. Consistency and small steps will get you much farther than grand, sweeping gestures. If you find yourself halfway through the year feeling exhausted or like you’ve lost track of your goals, it’s time to refocus.

Do you have a clear vision of what you want to achieve this year? If not, now’s the time to get clear on that vision and start working toward it.

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SO much more is on tap for tomorrow.

Join me TOMORROW  September 23rd from 11:00 AM to 1:00 PM (Eastern Time) for an incredible, hands-on workshop: Turn Up the Flame Without Burning Out. We’ll dive deep into everything we’ve talked about and help you stop overthinking, craft a concrete plan, and stick to a schedule.

This is going to be the most comprehensive workshop I’ve ever put together, and I’d love to see you there. 

Hurry though—spots are limited, and they’re filling up fast!

Don’t believe me. Believe my clients.

See you there. https://bit.ly/BraveEntrepreneurWorkshop

Three soul-searching questions to build the discipline you crave

I often get asked, “How can I be more disciplined?” So today, we’re diving into three essential tips, which are really three crucial questions. Here’s a bonus tip to kick things off: The answers you’re seeking aren’t out there—they’re already inside you. My gift is helping you unlock them.

These three questions are designed to help you break through your discipline challenges. As you read, I encourage you to comment below, message me, or even find me on social media to share your answers. Let’s have a conversation!

Also, on September 23rd, I’m hosting a special two-hour workshop that’ll go even deeper into this topic. So if you’re ready to roll up your sleeves and get to work, join me for that session!

1. What Are the Voices in Your Mind and Body Saying to Disallow Discipline?

If you’re struggling with discipline, that likely means there’s a voice in your head telling you why you can’t. Maybe it’s saying, “I’m too busy,” “I’m too tired,” or “What if I succeed?” These are limiting beliefs that disallow discipline. Take a moment to think about the narratives playing out in your head and challenge them.

2. What Are You Doing Right Now for Your Own Happiness and Fulfillment?

When we think of discipline, we often associate it with hard work, nose-to-the-grindstone mentality. But what’s really missing in the background is joy. What are you doing for your own happiness? Sometimes, focusing on fulfillment is the key to unlocking the energy and discipline you need.

A great concept I came across from Vishen Lakhiani of Mindvalley is the idea of “Blissipline”—blending bliss and discipline. If you focus on your happiness, you’ll find that the discipline naturally follows.

For example, I recorded the video part of this article because it makes me happy. It doesn’t have to be complicated!

3. What Is Your Greatest Fear If You Do What You Say You Want to Do?

This might seem like a trick question, but fear often holds us back from discipline. The reptilian brain wants to protect us and keep us safe—sometimes from our own success. Ask yourself, What am I afraid of if I succeed? When you dig deep, you’ll likely find the root cause of your resistance to discipline.

Ready for More?

These three questions are just the beginning! Join me on September 23rd for the Bold Solopreneur Workshop—where we’ll dive deep into sticking to a schedule, making a plan, and building real momentum.

You won’t want to miss it! Spots are limited, so sign up today while you can!

I’d love to hear from you: What are your answers to these three questions? Comment below or message me privately. Let’s have a real conversation about how to unlock your discipline and achieve your greatest goals.

Until next time, stay bold!

p.s. When you fully participate in the BOLD ENTREPRENEUR workshop you too can have results like Heidi. It’s a journey AND you need to START (or level up!)