Author: Carol Williams

Balance in a very unbalanced world

Balance. We talk about it a lot, and many of us say we want it. Yet for years, I’ve been challenging the idea. As a Libra, I know balance is always on my mind, but I believe in the power of being *off-balance on purpose*. Today, I want to revisit the idea of balance—but this time, I’m diving into what *you* shared as the meaning of true balance in your lives.

Whether you’ve shared publicly or messaged me privately, certain themes have come up repeatedly. Here are four powerful themes, based on your words, that give us a unique approach to balance. I invite you to see which of these resonate, and think about how you might intentionally structure your life and schedule to bring in more of what matters to you.

The Four Elements of True Balance

When we’re clear on what we want, balance becomes about designing our days to meet those desires. Here’s the breakdown from your feedback—let’s see how these can work for you.

1. Your Life’s Great Work

The first thing people wanted was time to pursue what I like to call “your Great Work in the world.” This isn’t necessarily your 9-to-5 or a side hustle, although it could be connected. It’s that calling, that life’s work that pulls you forward. For many, balancing time for your great work with other responsibilities is at the top of the list.

2. Relaxation and Rest

Right up there with great work, people shared the need for dedicated time to *rest and relax*. Work can’t exist without downtime, and rest can’t be pushed aside until we’re burned out. This isn’t just about lounging; it’s about refueling so you can show up fully in your great work and everything else.

3. Movement and Health

Next came the desire for movement—exercise, getting outdoors, and focusing on healthy habits. Our work and rest are both supported by a strong foundation of health. Carving out time for these elements keeps us energized and capable of handling all that life demands.

4. Quiet Reflection Time

This one doesn’t always get the spotlight but is often what people feel most deeply connected to when they *do* make space for it: time for quiet reflection. Whether through journaling, meditation, or simple moments of stillness, these times help us reconnect to our intentions and keep our energy balanced.

Creating Balance That Sticks

So here’s a question for you to consider. If you begin your day with a sense of your balance priorities, how do you want to feel at the end of the day? If time for reflection gets pushed aside, does that feel like a major loss? How about exercise? Or your Great Work?

Treat each day like you’re preparing for a trip, and your time for movement, reflection, work, and rest is as important as packing the essentials for that journey. Knowing the destination gives us direction; knowing what we need helps us stay prepared.

Let’s Define Your Balance Together!

We’ll go much deeper into these themes on Veteran’s Day, November 11th at noon Eastern, in The Overachievers Club. This monthly session is free, and I’m excited to explore how each of us can build a balance that feels uniquely right. 

If you’re ready to redefine balance for yourself and gain the clarity to put it into practice, join us! And…I’m unleashing  a surprise this month, so be sure to come along.  Can’t wait to see you there! 🕰️🌱

p.s. did you listen to my recent podcast with Thom Stimpel of The Entrepreneurs Guild?

Listen here

Discover why your brain craves the scroll—and manage it mindfully

Ever find yourself in an endless scroll on social media, wondering where the time went? You’re not alone! So many people struggle with the same thing. It’s no wonder, with our brains constantly craving that dopamine boost.

There are popular methods to combat this, like deleting social media apps off your phone. And while it works for many, there’s something deeper at play. By understanding what’s happening in our brains during these social scrolls, we can approach dopamine strategically and take control of our focus.

Today, I’ll walk you through a unique way to manage your dopamine—the **DOPA** approach. I didn’t invent it, but it’s too good not to share. This approach works especially well for people with ADHD-like tendencies, or anyone who finds themselves jumping from one thing to another without finishing. Ready? Let’s dive in!

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Dopamine and Why We Scroll

Dopamine is often called the “feel-good” hormone, and it’s central to our motivation. It drives us to do things that feel rewarding, but the problem is that our brains can get a bit lazy about it. Instead of focusing on productive dopamine hits, like exercise or creativity, we reach for quick fixes, like cookies or social media. The thrill we get from scrolling or snacking is temporary, often followed by a crash.

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The DOPA Approach: A Menu for Your Mind

Here’s a framework to approach dopamine with intention:

DOPA: I did not make this up and it’s all over TikTok!

• Design your dopamine triggers  
• Omit distractions  
• Prepare for productive boosts  
• Advertise reminders to yourself  

Think of it like building a “Dopamine Menu” with starters, mains, sides, and desserts:

1. Starters

   Starters are the activities that get you moving quickly. These should be simple and quick dopamine boosts, like a five-minute dance break, a few jumping jacks, or even just stepping outside for some fresh air. Use these to get started when you feel stuck.

2. Mains 

   These are dopamine activities that require more time and provide a deeper satisfaction. Examples include going on a hike, doing an art project, or meeting a friend for coffee. Save these for times when you can afford the time commitment.

3. Sides

Sides go along with your mains and make the experience more enjoyable and easier to execute…especially important for a busy brain. Think about setting the mood with music, using pleasant lighting, or even putting on a soothing scent in your workspace. These subtle touches can boost your motivation and make tasks feel less daunting.

4. Desserts 

Dessert activities are your treats but should be saved for last. This might be watching a Netflix show, having a sweet snack, or scrolling social media. These aren’t off-limits, but they’re best used as rewards after you’ve completed more productive tasks.

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Putting It All Together

Using this DOPA approach helps you pre-plan your dopamine sources throughout the day. That way, you don’t have to rely on impulsive, unplanned dopamine fixes like scrolling. Write out your personal Dopamine Menu, with each category filled in with activities that make you feel good and focused. This way, you’re ready to pull from it throughout your day.

If you’ve tried this out or created your own Dopamine Menu, let me know! What’s one activity you’ll try adding to your starters or mains this week?

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Let’s take charge of our dopamine and find more balance, focus, and joy! You’ve got this!

PS: Sometimes it simply boils down to “the basics” – learn how Megan increased results on her health, her wealth, & her relationships. Watch her here

Want to explore how YOU can turn around doom scrolling and doing what you KNOW is not good for you? Let’s talk!

Feeling stuck after rejection? Discover strategies to break free from the patterns holding you back.

Do you ever feel like doors keep slamming in your face? You’re out here running your own business, trying to make it work, sending emails, making calls… and nothing. Either you hear crickets, or people say things like, “I can’t think of anyone who needs what you offer” or “I’ll get back to you,” and then… silence. Yeah, I get it—it’s tough, and honestly, it sucks.

Here’s the reality: we have to sell our services if we want our businesses to thrive. Rejection is part of the deal, and even though we know that, it still feels awful, especially when you have a busy, neurodivergent brain (with or without ADHD). If you’re nodding along, you might have experienced something called Rejection Sensitivity.

For many of us neurodiverse folks, this hits hard. Some people even get labeled as HSPs—Highly Sensitive Persons. It’s real, and it’s heavy. I’m linking an article about how to cope with this, but first, let’s dive into what’s happening in our brains.

Our brains LOVE patterns. They don’t care if the patterns are helpful or harmful—they just want to stick to what’s familiar. So, if you’ve experienced rejection over and over, your brain starts making a pattern out of it. It’s not about whether you’re “doing it wrong” or “too much,” it’s about your brain following the same loop.

Here’s the good news: you can outsmart your brain. Even with rejection sensitivity, we can break the cycle. If you’re used to feeling like you’re “too loud,” “interrupt too much,” or “don’t take social cues well,” this is especially important for you.

There are four things you can do to manage rejection sensitivity, and they all start with an “R”: Recognize, Respond, Reflect, and Reframe.

1. Recognize
   First, notice how your body feels when you hear something you didn’t want to hear. Are you tense? Clenched? Pay attention to those physical signs—it’s a huge first step.
2. Respond
   Once you’ve noticed the tension, do something to shake it off—literally. Stretch, shake your arms, or take a deep breath. You’re not trying to think yet; you’re just getting your body to relax. Trust me, loosening up your body helps clear your mind.
3. Reflect
   Now that you’ve calmed your body, it’s time to reflect. Ask yourself: “Is what I’m thinking really true?” Maybe you’ve been telling yourself stories like, “This will never work,” or “That person must not like me.” Dig deeper—often, those stories aren’t the whole truth.
4. Reframe
   Finally, it’s time to reframe. Once you’ve questioned the stories your brain made up, you can start to shift your perspective. This step takes more thought, but it’s powerful. Journaling, talking to a coach, or even taking a quiet walk can help you get there. When you start reframing how you see yourself and your situation, real change happens.

Let me give you a personal example. Before I owned my house, I didn’t see myself as a homeowner. So naturally, I kept getting in my own way when it came to saving money, applying for a mortgage, and handling the responsibilities that come with owning a home. But once I shifted my mindset to “I am a homeowner,” things fell into place. The same can happen in business. When we boldly put ourselves out there, things shift.

When I offer my services, I make it clear: “I’m here to shake up your thinking.” It takes boldness to say that, but the more I give, the more confident I become, and the more people respond positively. And when I ask, “Do you know anyone who could benefit from this?” they don’t just shrug—they know exactly who could use my help.

Speaking of bold moves, we’re almost at the end of October, and that means there’s still time to grab my Libra Birthday Gift—five powerful questions that will challenge you and help you think bigger. Fair warning: if you’re not ready to push yourself and grow, this isn’t for you. But if you’re ready to take a leap, then it’s time to sign up!

So, what’s your next step to being bolder and braver? How are you going to risk hearing “no” in the next few days? Let me know in the comments below or sign up for that call!

You’ve got this!

p.s. If you are wondering what the rejections might be all about, WATCH THESE PEOPLE so you can get into your prospect’s head!

Re-inflate on a regular basis so you don’t become pancake flat

As solopreneurs, many of us have figured out when we’re most productive. For some, it’s those quiet, early morning hours. But what happens when life gets in the way, especially when caregiving demands compete for that precious morning energy?

When your most productive time is also the time you’re needed most as a caregiver, your priorities shift. And that’s okay. You do what you have to do—take care of those who cannot care for themselves. But at the end of that caregiving, you’re left drained, with a mile-long to-do list staring you in the face. What now?

Here’s what: you rest.

Rest is not just productive—it’s vital. As caregivers, we often operate at a deficit, giving our last bit of energy to others and leaving ourselves with so little. Over time, this builds up, and suddenly, it’s not just one night of poor sleep or one skipped meal. It’s a series of “not enoughs” that compound, making us more tired, more stressed, and less effective.

What you truly need is time to re-inflate. Not reshuffle. Not “balance.” You need to intentionally fill yourself back up so that you can keep going. Without that rest, you’re operating from an empty tank. So, what do you do when your most creative time is also the time you’re most needed?

Here are three ideas to help you manage:

Reduce your creative time to a shorter duration. If you can only get 15 minutes in the morning, make those 15 minutes count. Let go of the guilt and just use what you have.

Ask for help. Sometimes we think we have to do everything ourselves, but there are people around you who can step in, even if just for a short time, to take over caregiving duties.

Honor your need to rest. Defer your creative work to another time if possible. Your well-being comes first, and without rest, your creativity won’t shine like it can.

The most important thing to remember here is that YOU are in charge. You get to stop, plan, and create a new way of being. Over time, as you build in intentional pauses and self-care, you’ll find a rhythm that allows you to thrive in both roles: as a business owner and a caregiver.

So, give yourself permission to re-inflate. Rest is not just a luxury—it’s your most productive tool. And with that rhythm of rest and work, you can create a life that feels balanced, even when it’s anything but!

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Feeling Overwhelmed? Focus on What Truly Matters

In our hustle-driven world, it’s all too easy to get lost in the chaos of daily tasks. We often think the secret to effective planning is simply mapping out our week—scheduling every minute, juggling multiple priorities, and checking off endless to-do lists. Yet, in the pursuit of productivity, we often overlook what truly matters: our “north star” direction and “goals.”

It’s time to confront a counterintuitive truth: keeping your goals front and center can actually make planning your week easier, not harder. Most people stash their goals away in dusty boxes, viewing them as untouchable ideals. But in reality, they should be our guiding stars, illuminating the path through our busy lives.

When you’re standing on your head, juggling tasks, and multitasking like a pro, the notion of reflecting on your goals may seem impossible. However, this is precisely where the magic happens. Slowing down to think about your goals doesn’t derail your progress; it actually accelerates it. By pausing to consider what you genuinely want to achieve, you gain clarity and focus. This allows you to streamline your tasks, making decisions about where to direct your energy.

Instead of drowning in the myth of multitasking, which often leads to scattered efforts and burnout, focus on one or two key goals each week. By aligning your daily tasks with these objectives, you create a coherent plan that prioritizes what truly matters. It’s about working smarter, not harder.

So, the next time you sit down to plan your week, take a moment to reconnect with your goals. Write them down, visualize them, and let them guide your decisions. You’ll find that with a clearer purpose, your planning becomes less of a chore and more of a strategic exercise. Embrace the counterintuitive approach of slowing down to speed up, and watch how your week transforms from a chaotic scramble into a focused journey towards your aspirations.

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What If You Don’t Know Your Big Goals?

Now, maybe you’re reading this and thinking, But what if I don’t even know what my goals are? Maybe you’re trying to make ends meet, keep your family organized, and still find time for your passions—whether that’s playing music, crafting, or some other creative pursuit. You might even wonder how you can possibly have a strategic goal in the midst of all this.

Don’t worry—I’ve got you covered. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and unsure of your direction, I can help you sort through the chaos and dial into what really matters.

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This is your chance to stop standing on your head, juggling tasks, and stressing over your week. Instead, you’ll start moving toward your goals with clarity, creativity, and focus. I’m here to help you make that shift—so claim your spot now before they’re gone!

I can’t wait to meet you and help you transform your approach. Let’s work together to make your weeks smoother and your goals more achievable. Happy birthday to me; happy success to YOU!

Watch Erica….at 2:27 she talks about how her business skyrocketed when she took the rest of her life seriously…one area feeds on the other: 

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by a never-ending list of things to do—organizing your office, setting goals, juggling personal responsibilities, and trying to keep everything afloat—you’re not alone. Between mom’s doctor appointment, letting the cat out, or remembering to post on social media, it’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in tasks without actually getting the important things done. Exhaustion creeps in, and yet, somehow, the to-do list keeps growing.

Sound familiar? Keep reading because I’ve got three key tips to help you regain control and boost your productivity. Plus, we’ll dive even deeper into this during the Overachievers Club on October 7th at 12:00 PM Eastern—completely free!

Tip 1: You Don’t Have to Know It All to Start

A common mistake I see is people feeling the need to organize everything before they can start working. They build endless to-do lists or spreadsheets, thinking they have to get every single task written down before they can take action. The truth is, that mindset keeps you stuck in inertia.

The key is to start small. You don’t need the full picture to begin. We’ll dive more into the “how” on Monday, but for now, let this sink in: you don’t need to do it all at once. Start with just one step, however small.

Tip 2: Build from the Bottom of the Productivity Success Cake

Let’s talk about the Productivity Success Cake—a system that works every time. The bottom layer is Health, the middle is Environment, and the top layer is where Productivity and Celebration meet. Most people want to skip to the top layer and start with productivity, but it won’t work if the foundation isn’t there.

There are five key areas at the base of the cake that should each be at least a five out of 10 before you move forward. If you haven’t yet, take the productivity quiz on the unscatterme.com to see where you stand. Don’t skip the basics!

Tip 3: Don’t Go It Alone

When you’re overwhelmed, it can feel like you’re all on your own. But don’t fall into the trap of isolation. Whether it’s reaching out to friends, joining a mastermind group, or working with a coach, support systems are key to success. There’s no need to carry the burden solo. Lean into your community for advice, encouragement, and accountability.

Join us in the Overachievers Club for support and cheerleading as you tackle your to-dos. Doing it alone is a recipe for burnout—together, we’re unstoppable!

Workshop Reminder: Don’t forget to join me on October 7th at 12 PM Eastern for the next Overachievers Club meeting! We’ll tackle your productivity challenges together and create a plan for success. Sign up on my website under Overachievers Club. See you there!

Erin recently worked with me. When she began, she was actually resenting her clients, because she was so burned out. Through our work together, she slowly allowed herself to set boundaries that honored HER and now she is exercising, taking weekends off, and feeling much more free.

Be like Erin. Watch here: https://fathom.video/share/W1LyEWFy_TGF5nwgxx2W3cQCfLHKX2T6

If you like those results you will love the next step…the free Overachievers Club. Come have fun with us.