Practical tips for managing your energy and staying true to your values this holiday season
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The holidays are here, and with them come colder nights, busier days, and for many of us, the pull to overgive and overextend. It’s easy to lose sight of our needs when we’re focused on creating joy for others. But this season presents an unparalleled opportunity to pause, reflect, and refocus—not to take away from giving, but to give from a place of wholeness. Today, I’m sharing a simple, yet powerful four-step process to help you slow down, articulate your needs, and balance giving with honoring yourself.
1. Remember What You Need
This step has two parts: remembering yourself and recognizing your desires. When life gets hectic, we often forget to check in with ourselves. Slow down. Take an energy inventory. Ask yourself, “Where is my energy going, and what do I truly need?”
For example, you might notice that you’re saying yes to every holiday invitation but neglecting downtime to recharge. Acknowledging this is the first step to realignment.
2. Articulate Your Needs
It’s one thing to know what you need, but it’s another to voice it. Start by articulating your desires to yourself. Write them in a journal, add reminders to your phone, or jot them on sticky notes.
Next, communicate them to those around you. Maybe you need help with holiday preparations or a few uninterrupted hours to focus on your business. Speaking up might feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s a vital practice.
3. Trust There’s Another Side
When you’re feeling exhausted or overwhelmed, remember that it won’t last forever. Trust that by addressing your needs now, you’re creating space for a better day tomorrow.
For example, on a recent tough day, I admitted to myself and my family, “I don’t feel great today.” That small act of honesty lifted a weight. By allowing my feelings to simmer instead of bottling them up, I found myself feeling lighter and more creative the next day.
4. Be Okay with Conflicting Values
The holidays often highlight the tension between wanting peace and honoring your own needs. It’s natural to feel torn. You may want to maintain harmony by saying “yes” to everything, but that peace can come at the cost of your well-being.
True balance comes from accepting these conflicting values and making intentional choices. For example, you might choose to delegate some holiday tasks or skip a few events so you can focus on what truly matters to you.
Join Me for More!
These four steps are just the beginning. We’ll go deeper into this process during the free December session of The Overachievers Club.
🗓 Date: Monday, December 2nd
⏰ Time: 12:00 PM – 1:00 PM EST
💻 Where: Online (Zoom)
IT’S ALWAYS FREE OF CHARGE SO TELL A FRIEND!
This is your chance to design a holiday season that feels intentional, joyful, and manageable. You deserve to end the year feeling empowered and aligned.
Until then, take a moment to reflect on your needs and desires. What would make this season meaningful for you? Let me know—I’d love to hear from you.
Happy Thanksgiving to those celebrating, and I’ll see you soon!