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You want to get it done, but you just can’t get started. You beat yourself up.
What’s behind this beating yourself up…again? What’s behind this knowing that you’ve got stuff to do, but just feeling completely overwhelmed and just not doing any of it?
Recently, I was in Arizona, and I watched my son experience this exact thing. He knew he had to open his mail, he knew he had to pay his parking tickets, he knew he had to deal with a lot of rather mundane and boring tasks like figuring out “paid time off” and “dealing with insurance” and “looking at doing another job” etc. Perhaps you’re an entrepreneur and struggles to make the connections., You’ve got to reach out to podcast guests, you’ve got to create your content, and your newslette,….you’ve got to invite clients into your world. But you just feel stuck and you can’t get there.
This article is for you.
Before we dive into the five tips, ask yourself what’s really going on.
Usually it’s actually a self-esteem issue. We feel some version of “not good enough.” We look at the past as evidence of what is to come. We do this rather than instead of accepting the past and deciding that this time, we’re going to take different steps and have a different outcome.
OK. Let’s get to the 5 Ways to get it Done!
- Celebrate success. So many of us shy away from this critical practice Come to my free monthly Wisdom Warriors, and let us all celebrate your successes with you. The first thing we do on those calls is to celebrate our successes. In my private groups, and in my private one to one high end coaching, again, the first thing we do is we celebrate.
Usually when people come for coaching, it’s not because everything is going well. It’s just the opposite – everything is not going well. So, when I ask for a celebration, it’s counterintuitive. People have a hard time remembering what went well. You can always celebrate showing up. You can celebrate how pretty the trees are starting to get. You could celebrate anything. Celebrating rewires the brain, and success breeds success. It’s biological; changing the neurons in your mind. Even what may feel to be the tiniest of successes such as getting out of bed in the morning, high fiving yourself in the mirror like Mel Robbins does. That’s something to celebrate.
- Remove your “shoulds” or “you’re supposed to’s.” We do it all the time. We think it’s going to work. It doesn’t work at all, actually. Try this instead: rather than feeling glum about having to do the laundry, think about how nice those clothes will smell when they come out of the dryer. If you don’t want to deal with your finances, think about how nice it’ll be to have to have that bill paid. That’s a way to get started; to get out of your own way.
- Tap into your creativity. If you don’t like to do “something” and you consider yourself to be a creative person, try tapping into your creativity. Last week I was trying to help my son to do a lot of “boring” tasks. He’s 21 and there’s a lot of “life tasks” that he just can’t get himself to do. I served as a body double. He said, “Mom, it’s amazing. When you’re just sitting here, I can just go ahead and do it”. His other strategy was to put on his headphones. This was his creative solution. He’s a highly sensitive person, quite distracted by other people’s conversations and his own thoughts. Maybe you, too, share this characteristic. Having somebody present really works, and you can do this on zoom as well.
- Give yourself permission to delegate. One person’s passion can be another person’s “non passion!” Get creative. If you have someone close to you who is really good with numbers (and you are not), but you are really good at organizing and getting things done (and that other is not) then work together to get stuff done. Turn boring tasks into games. For example, grocery shopping. Turn it into a game. See if you can get in and out in 30 minutes. If you do it in less, reward yourself with a latte!
- Try even if you believe you will fail. Perhaps you create a schedule at times, then don’t follow the schedule, before you even have a chance to try the schedule. Why? Maybe you believe you’re not good at schedules and don’t want to fail. Because you don’t want to fail, you try to save yourself and not even try.
Let’s not do that. Let’s make the task smaller, and smaller, and smaller…
Tell me, which is your favorite tip? What small steps are you going to take? Hit reply and let me know!
Remember: the first Monday of the month is Wisdom Warriors, which is my free group, so please come along. It’s at 12pm Eastern. It’s just all love…not some salesy webinar.. So, bring your friends and have some fun with it. Free, powerful coaching and community. A gem!
Too shy for zoom? Come to your own private Facebook group and share the love that way. Be in community!
Want to work with me privately? Let’s have a conversation! I hate to see you stuck. Stuck sucks. We don’t want that.
Here’s to getting it done, de-stuckifying, and being with like minded others.
Cheers!
Carol