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Why “Just Do It” doesn’t always work—and what to do instead

Learn how to overcome obstacles that keep you from moving forward on your most important goals.

The phrase “Just do it” may work for Nike, but in reality, pushing through resistance isn’t always that simple. If it were, we’d all be effortlessly tackling our to-do lists, making progress on our big goals, and never struggling with procrastination.

Yet, time and time again, I hear from clients who know what they need to do but can’t seem to get it done. They tell themselves to “just do it,” but then they don’t—and they end up frustrated, stuck, and even doubting themselves. Sound familiar?

Let’s break down why taking action can feel so hard, what’s actually happening when we get stuck, and how you can move forward in a way that actually works.

Why you’re not taking action (it’s not laziness!)

I recently had a coaching session with a client who hadn’t completed the tasks she had committed to during our last meeting. When I asked her what happened, her first response was, “I don’t know. I just didn’t do it. I guess I’m just lazy.”

But here’s the thing—laziness is almost never the real reason. After some reflection, she realized she had been overwhelmed by the complexity of the tech, PLUS she had not been eating to her best advantage (nutrition.) The technical aspects felt daunting, as that is not her strong suit…and she was feeling less than her usual chipper self. So she avoided the commitments altogether.

This is what happens to so many of us. When a task feels too big, too complicated, or too uncomfortable, our brains go into avoidance mode. And no amount of “just do it” will override that.

Instead, we need a new approach—one that doesn’t rely on willpower alone.

The three key ingredients for getting things done

If you’re feeling stuck, it’s time to shift your approach. The secret to making progress isn’t forcing yourself through resistance—it’s working with your brain’s natural tendencies. 

So, if you have a busy and creative brain…here are three elements that help you move forward:

  1. Motivation** – Instead of waiting for motivation to strike, create it. Take a small step—any step—and let momentum build. The act of starting often sparks motivation, rather than the other way around. THIS IS A MOTIVATION BABYSTEP.
  2. Challenge – Your brain thrives on challenges, but they need to be the right size. If something feels too overwhelming, break it down into smaller, more manageable pieces.
  3. Novelty – Introducing something new or exciting can make a task more appealing. A change in location, a different approach, or even a small reward can make all the difference.

**See also number one below!

What to do when you’re stuck

Now that you know the three key ingredients, what do you do if you still feel stuck? Here’s a step-by-step approach to help you move forward:

  1. Identify What’s De-Motivating You
    Instead of beating yourself up, get curious. What’s making this task feel hard? Is it too big? Too boring? Too unclear? Understanding the block is the first step to removing it. (AKA WHY can’t I even do a “little” motivation babystep?)
  2. Remind Yourself That You’re Capable and Fierce
    Negative self-talk only makes things harder. Instead of focusing on past failures, remind yourself of what you have accomplished AND WHO YOU REALLY ARE! You’re capable and fierce. You can do hard things. You just need the right strategy.
  3. Take the Smallest Possible Step AND have an accountability person…
    If a task feels overwhelming, shrink it down. Want to write a book? Open a blank document and type your name. THEN give yourself Full Permission to Stop! Chances are…you may not stop! Want to exercise even in the freezing cold? Make a gym date with a buddy! These tiny steps create momentum, and before you know it, you’re in motion.

Get unstuck TOGETHER

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I know what I should do, but I’m not doing it,” you’re not alone. And you’re not broken. You just need the right tools to break through the resistance.

This is exactly what we’ll be diving into at the next The Overachievers Club session on March 3rd! We’ll talk about why we procrastinate, how to recognize what’s holding us back, and how to finally make progress—without burnout or self-blame.

This week in my PRIVATE paid cohort (Overachievers is totally free), the participants really sang the praises of the support they got in the group.

If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start doing, join us! I can’t wait to see you there.

Onward and upward,

Carol

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The Power of Being Un-busy: How to Reclaim Your Life and Great Work

How Embracing Boredom Can Unlock Your Creativity

What if someone asked, “Are you busy?” and you could confidently say, “No.” In a world where busyness is often equated with success, we forget that being perpetually busy can rob us of time, health, and creativity. It’s time to redefine what it means to live a productive, meaningful life—without the stress of being “busy.”

The Myth of Busyness Equals Success
We live in a culture where “busy” is seen as a badge of honor. People assume that being busy means you’re successful or achieving your goals. But more often, being busy means you’re overwhelmed, overcommitted, and disconnected from your true priorities.

Busyness limits your ability to think, create, and focus on what truly matters. It leads to health issues, burnout, and a perpetual chase for external validation. Instead of asking, “How much can I do?” ask, “Am I doing what’s truly important to me?”

The Courage to Be Unbusy
Learning to embrace boredom and unbusyness can be uncomfortable, especially when it requires sitting with your thoughts or facing your inner fears. However, these quiet moments are essential for creativity, clarity, and alignment with your values.

Think of unbusyness as freedom—the freedom to choose, reflect, and take meaningful action. Being unbusy allows you to focus on your great work in the world.

A Client’s Transformation: From Busy to Breathing
One of my clients recently shared a powerful realization: “I’ve finally given myself permission to breathe, for the first time in my entire life.” She had spent decades giving her time and energy to everyone else, but through coaching, she discovered the power of slowing down and focusing on her purpose.

By stepping away from constant busyness, she created space to dream, plan, and execute her great work. Her life became not only more productive but also more joyful and abundant.

Your One Un-busy Life
If you’ve been laid off, hit a major life transition, or feel overwhelmed by your commitments, now is the perfect time to pause and ask: What will I do with my one un-busy life?

Un-busyness is not about doing nothing—it’s about doing the right things. It’s about focusing on your great work while maintaining your health, relationships, and peace of mind.

Next Steps:
If you’re ready to break free from the busyness trap and focus on what truly matters, I’m here to help. Let’s work together to create a plan that allows you to live abundantly, make an impact, and feel fulfilled—without the chaos.