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Meet Husain, the PhD, who could not find order

Hey everybody. Carol, back here with the second video lesson, I’m very excited to see you all. 

In this lesson I wanted to give you a real live example, and the example I want to really highlight today is somebody that-  I’ll be honest with you –  I never thought would would come into my world and be so blessed by me, and whilst he’s no longer a client, he was really a special person. Let me tell you what happened.

Read on or watch the video.

His name is Husain, right? He’s the PhD who could not find order. I mean, this man is ridiculously smart, but yet order was just not something that he could find. And so I know last time I really shared with you my pretty vulnerable truth. But this is not just my experience, I have this really powerful story to tell about my client Husain. He was in the situation where he just desperately wanted to follow the rules, but for the life of him, it wouldn’t work. He tried to be orderly.  I mean, many people say that ‘oh my gosh, I’ve tried to be organized’ and ‘I used to be organized’. We hear that a lot. But yet something is different now because you’re in a different situation. In his case, he had just started his business a couple of years previous and I thought, my God, I have no idea how I’m going to help this man because I don’t know anything about his business. But in truth, I didn’t need to know anything about his business. He felt as orderly as a ‘cotton ball on fire’ – those were his words – and as a result, his business was tanking. His marriage was teetering on divorce, and I have got to say his self-hate level was pretty high. 

Now, after working through my five steps to become confident and focused, life really doesn’t get in the way for him. He has implemented just enough structure in his life so that he is now able to access that energy flow so that he does not shut down and he’s prioritizing his own needs. He wasn’t doing that before, even with six very young children. That’s pretty amazing. And he is an engaged, actively engaged spouse.  

Think about the iceberg again.

The five steps are right above the line where the ‘decide’ is. We talked about the ‘financial’ and ’financial stability’ already but there’s also other ones – self-love and deep healing. Luckily Husian had the financial stability all set so that he could really hang on to this work and really go deep. But that deep healing and that self-love we really worked on that. So what he thought he needed was to get more organized, right? And that ‘more organized’ is in my Discover Program. What he learned by starting here is that he had to dive down into this piece so that it would then support that piece. And now his life is kind of amazing because he gets in these flow states where things are profitable and easy. So if you like flow state, if you like profitable and easy pay attention, download the free guide on the five steps because it’ll really get the ball rolling.

The other thing that I wanted to say was that Husain’s energy, and that of many of the people II work with, is kind of up and down. And what happens is when our energy is up and down, is that our villains, our gremlins, our voices in the back of our head, start talking to us about how we’ll never make it and we’re not worthy and so on and so forth. So through this process he was able to get that energy back. He was able to make his work, work with his own energy up. So, if you are not a bright and early riser, no worries!  Don’t do things bright and early! There can be beliefs in the background saying ‘I must get up now because the rest of the world is up’, or ‘the rest of the world starts work at eight o’clock in the morning’. Well, you don’t have to! I have a current client right now (who isn’t Husain), who has decided on purpose, her work hours are 11am to 8pm. That happens with a lot of my people because a lot of my people are neurodiverse and they tend to work better later at night. And that is okay.  

The other thing that can get in the way of being organized and and having a successful business and a life that you love is the lack of vision and the lack of putting that vision in front of you. Through our work together, Husain and countless others got off track – they procrastinated and got shiny object syndrome, (which we all do in my community at least!) but  we came back and we would repeatedly go through from ‘decide’ place because this is an iterative process from the ‘decide’ place.  What do you want to be focused on for your vision? 

Last but not least, I want to bring up another concern that some folks have, and I know Husian had – ‘will I make enough money? You know, sure I have some money saved up, but will I make enough money to really be able to support my family, be able to do this thing?’ And that’s a real consideration. Going through the steps will allow you all those foundational pieces, and then once you do get up to that ‘discover’ step, where we really dive into the productivity success cake.  Husain did that process at least twice – because we bake lots of different cakes and they’re all fun and all different, and we learn something more and better about ourselves every single time.  You don’t have to do this more than once but no matter how many cakes you bake, whether it’s one or whether it’s two or three, it’s amazing what happens. All of that foundational work you do at the beginning now supports time management, project management, getting more confident in your decisions over and over and over again – and you get to practice and celebrate. 

All of the steps are covered in in the guide, and the guide is also all about getting the ball rolling – because that’s the hardest part and is why  it’s in red. It’s in red for a reason because too many of us are ‘well I’d like to do that, but maybe I want to do this’. But what about it? I just want to keep this open. Like I was doing that, remember? I was running around thing to thing, throwing spaghetti at the wall. Husian was running around like a cotton ball on fire. If you are feeling ‘I better do whatever I can do for the economy’, then please download the guide and stay tuned because I have a special workshop coming up on Monday, where I really want you to do these steps and have that breakthrough for yourself. It’s going to be your opportunity to go through it yourself and have that breakthrough, and I can’t wait to see you on the other side when I’m congratulating you for your breakthrough and you really are clear about what’s going to happen in light of the recession and not be a victim anymore. 

I can’t wait for that for you.

Thank you.

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Opportunity in a recession

Today I’m addressing some big stuff. We are on the absolute brink -and some people may say we already are- in an economic crisis and doom and gloom and recession. And I’m here to state it and not to get caught up in it. And…with every problem there’s an opportunity and there’s a key point to learn. The key is to be prepared.

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I’m going to tell you a little story, and this story has to do with me, back in 2009 when we were having another economic crisis. I was first trying to get my life together after I had made the decision to separate from my crazy ex, which came a little bit after 2009 – I didn’t know what to do.  I really hated feeling like I was running in circles, just trying to survive. I was in an economic crisis. The great recession still had that hold on us. It was actually a couple years after 2009 but I still had that FEELING.

It reminds me of today. Sure, we’re not in covid, but many of us are still in that survival mode. So – still in an economic crisis back then, I was faced with a big decision. What do I do about living with that abusive alcoholic?  I was quite emotionally unstable and to say I was scattered would be an understatement. What I discovered in those first few years of my business and in that economic crisis, the crisis that I was in inside and out, was that counterintuitively I really needed to slow down. I had been running FAST for a long time.

The process of slowing down was unexpected. It worked really well, and that actually opened the door to me being able to think again and say ‘yes’ to my own needs. Imagine that, right? So, I found an amazing mentor, and she helped me build my coaching practice step by step. Slowing down allowed me to see what God had put right in front of me. So I ask you this, imagine if you were able to believe in yourself with ease, without getting constantly pulled in other directions by your family creating or amplifying that feeling of being scattered by that direction pulling.  It’s so common among entrepreneurs who have the shiny object syndrome. If you dare to allow yourself to imagine this, do yourself a solid (like my teenager would say) and keep reading. I’m going to give you three tips.

The first tip to remember  is to get your confidence back.  If you are making a change…for example, -you’ve been away from your business for a little while, or if 

-you are going to the next level in your business, if 

-you’ve had a change in any way, you may have moved, 

-you may have gotten divorced,

or any number of changes- that impacts our confidence. We don’t feel “in the mode.” Getting that confidence back, it’s really important to slow down and to really start working on what makes you feel good. What light do you have to shine on the world? Even if you feel a little rusty since you have not done what you used to do, and even if you feel scattered, I invite you to consider  a time in your past where you were really on your game. When you place your mind there, you will walk out in the world with that confidence. It is a number one thing people are really looking for when they begin anew and being in an economic crisis and recession and all the doom and gloom and inflation – that can knock our confidence back and we can think ‘oh my gosh, I’d better run and hide’. I don’t want you to run and hide. Running and hiding will not get you there, I promise you that. 

The second thing to consider is really taking a look at your time management – and that’s what I didn’t do. What I did is I ran around like crazy. I had great experience in running around like crazy, throwing spaghetti to the wall, smiling, kind of pretending everything was okay. And you know what? As a business owner, some days you want everything to look like Disney, or to feel like Disney – as everything is not Disney. And baking it, you can kind of tell in the background that things aren’t working. So give your time and attention to what really matters. How do you know what really matters? Well, if you’re making money at it, it’s lighting you up and it’s and it’s really aligning with you and your vision then those are the things that you really want to focus on.  

Last but not least there’s a fear that some people have right now and that is that they will have to work full-time in order to support themselves, and that they will have no time to continue building their business the way they want because they just don’t have enough hours in the day.  So for that, what I’ll say is you don’t have to work full-time. What’s so important is that you have enough coming in to cover your bills or you have enough put aside somewhere to cover your bills for the next (at least) three months while you’re undergoing some changes in your life.  Whatever they are, whether it’s working on your confidence, taking care of your trauma, or maybe you’re in a business building program, whatever the case may be that you do have enough coming in or put aside, it’s actually really important.

The bottom of my iceberg graphic is economic and financial security. If you don’t have that it’s virtually impossible to really stay focused on the things that really matter. You’re going to be in constant fear and worry, and we don’t want you in constant fear and worry. 

That’s what I have for today. In summary, you have a beautiful opportunity  to harness the “crap of what’s going on in the world,” to take whatever transition you’re in, and capitalize on opportunities that present themselves. Transitions can be starting a new business, upleveling your existing business, changing your business model, getting divorced, getting married, or moving. Regardless, you must stay focused.  These are wise ways to do it. So stay tuned for the next lesson for those, which will come out on Wednesday.

What transition might you be in? Comment below and let me know!